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Started by Nora Kayte, June 02, 2014, 11:14:06 PM

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Nora Kayte

Well therapy did not go to well tonight. Wife said we might as well end it. So screw everything. No wife = no place to live = no money or insurance = no transition. Because I'm on ssi can barely live on what I get. So unless things change I got no reason to want anything.







Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
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Ms Grace

Sorry to hear that - hope things improve somehow and soon
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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JulieBlair

Hey, lets talk about this for a minute.  I'm sorry that your marriage fell apart, mine did too.  It hurts and is sad, but is often a part of the price that ends up being paid to live an authentic life as the person that you are.  I understand how awful it is, but I also understand that my wife thought she was marrying a man, and it didn't work out that way. Still sucks though.

If you are on SSI, you will qualify for medicaid.  Once you have jumped through those hoops, and since gender dysphoria is a recognized condition, you'll be able to get, counseling, primary medical, and HRT medications for a minimal co-pay.  Check it out, if you need some help contact a local LGBT clinic, and they will help and advocate for you.  Housing is a bitch, but she can't just through you out without process.  You don't have to just leave.  If in your community there is a Gender Justice League or similar group office you can get some help in finding out what your options are.

The point is you are not powerless, and not alone.  You are your best resource, I am here for you as are many others.  To abandon authenticity is to despair of life, you are worth happiness, and worth living with joy as the woman you are.  Never ever give up! Sometimes becoming true to yourself takes longer than it ought, and meanders through trouble, but together we are strong and together we will find the sunshine.

Hugs :)
Julie
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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JulieBlair

Remember and be true to your own motto, it is a good one:
It's time to care, It's time to take responsibility, It's time to lead, It's time for a change, It's time to be true to our greatest self!
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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LittleEmily24

Perhaps I'm just naive but I would like to ask; if you are both owners of the house, what right does she have to kick you out? Granted; it wont be the most admirable of environments but.. you're a human being... it just seems cruel to throw you out on the street.. i mean is that even legal? I'm sure you're a co-owner of the house or co-signer (whatever you call it), so she can't legally kick you out unless she has a legitimate reason.

Like I said, maybe i'm just naive. But if its worth anything ~ keep fighting the good fight, because you never know when just around the corner is exactly what you needed. Otherwise, I can't really say much to add to what JulieBlair already said. Just know that it is better to live a struggling life where you know who you are... instead of living a successful life and asking yourself "what's the point?" every day.
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teeg

Apologies if I seem insensitive or anything, but in my opinion transition requires healthy living, and living dependent on your wife isn't going to help anything you should know this.

If you are dependent on someone for money, health insurance, housing, food, then I'm not sure how far you can expect to get in life, much less transition.

Find a job somewhere and a place to live. It's much easier than you or other people will try and convince you.
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Nora Kayte

My marriage is common law. She owns the house.  I just live here. I can't work. I am on disability. Chronic pain. If I could work I would love to. Not working after working all my life drives me crazy sometimes.







Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
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Jessica Merriman

Being forced into retirement after being injured in the line of duty I so get your feelings. The good thing is Medicare is going to cover SRS and trans related care now. That will be a huge load off of the both of us. My wife left me with a mountain of bills. I was just fortunate to have my land and house paid off. Are you 100% disabled like me or can you do part time? I know it is hard, but try to look at this as the beginning of a new life. It seems to open up all kind of possibilities mentally. PM if you ever need a boost as we all need it, just ask Cindy as she has been my lifeline since I joined here last year.  :)
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HoneyStrums

Quote from: Norma Lynne on June 02, 2014, 11:14:06 PM
Well therapy did not go to well tonight. Wife said we might as well end it. So screw everything. No wife = no place to live = no money or insurance = no transition. Because I'm on ssi can barely live on what I get. So unless things change I got no reason to want anything.

No Wife = moving out = finding a place to live = waiting for address changes on financial documents to hold = No Transition Progress for a while.

Can you ask if they wouldn't mind putting you up until you can find a place?
Your situation only means no transition yet, not no transition ever.

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Nora Kayte

I am 100% disabled. And it sucks. I loved to work. Less than $2000 a month is nothing in this county. I'm not 100% sure its over but I can't do this any more. Last night was couples therapy. I'm getting ready the go to my regular therapy. Hopefully I'll feel better after. My chronic pain has caused me to do to much bad in this relationship. I could never do enough good to fix it. Having a great heart is not enough for her anymore.







Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
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Jessica Merriman

Quote from: Norma Lynne on June 03, 2014, 12:13:40 PM
I am 100% disabled. And it sucks. I loved to work. Less than $2000 a month is nothing in this county. I'm not 100% sure its over but I can't do this any more. Last night was couples therapy. I'm getting ready the go to my regular therapy. Hopefully I'll feel better after. My chronic pain has caused me to do to much bad in this relationship. I could never do enough good to fix it. Having a great heart is not enough for her anymore.
OMG our stories are almost exactly alike! I lived for my job as well. I used it as a treatment for Dysphoria by overcompensating as an Alpha male. When I got injured the reality I could not suppress my real self hit like a pile driver. My pain and meds turned me into a rage monster and forced the decision to begin transition. My ex though seemed to want to leave after we stopped getting to go to big departmental dinners, awards ceremonies and other perks my job allowed. Being trans was just the excuse she needed to leave since I was injured and no longer able to do Alpha activities like a "real" man. UGH!
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HeatherR

What about working from home? I know U-Haul has from home jobs that you just answer calls and it pays pretty well
The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.  ~Ralph Blum~



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Nora Kayte

Quote from: HeatherR on June 03, 2014, 02:10:22 PM
What about working from home? I know U-Haul has from home jobs that you just answer calls and it pays pretty well

Wow U-haul really? I'll have to check into that. I sell stuff on eBay. You would not believe what sells. Lol. I have to get my store more full with stuff.  I just started listing more after taking a few years off. My best year on eBay was $20,000 if I could get back to that I will be happy.







Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
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