When will people understand, that being transgendered IS a fact of life, and that what ever their opinions of impossibility towards it are, that its those opinions that cause most of the dysphoria related depression.
Is it not these typs of opinions, that make our lives unsatisfactory prior to transistion. And the same opinions that make life uncomfatable for us after?
I know without these opinions I would never of felt ashamed to simply want to be happy and not have to hide a part of who I am. And these same attitudes are what make it hard for those people that do accept our inner person to be open about it, because they don't want to face the same kinds of criticisms discrimination and hate from the people they love and care about either. Its one of the things, that are are affecting my love life at the moment, sorry for ranting about it.
But the point is, STRAIT man falls for trans woman and struggles deeply to express that side of himself, because in the eyes of "that's a man people" he will be seen as and treated as gay, when HE knows he's not. And what makes it worse for US as trans is WE NEED to come out, we cant get away from it. But those that are "Trans infatuated" don't need to come out, they can move on and find a none trans woman.
This type of attitude doesn't just affect Trans individuals, but their friends, their families and their lovers, and their lovers families and friends. It goes further then that to, it affects completely cis men and woman too, because they exhibited a behaviour that ticks a box for the opposite sex and become accused of things. Eg two gay men get asked, which ones the woman then? because receiver means woman. And lesbian woman get asked who wears the pants? because pants mean man?
The point is, gendering a person, and applying a gender to behaviours and qualities and imposing those opinions onto people are demeaning to that person identity/personality/soul/perspective/self. The unfortunate thing behind this is that it works both ways. Their are people that identify as male or female due to a few basic traits, and when another person says that, that trait isn't a factor in how they identify this person feels demeaned seeing that their reasons for self Identifying are less substantial as far as woman and man goes.
But its that word, IDENTIFY regardless of how you identify, you identify and its that what makes it the most substantial part of WHO you are. But some people including myself at one point see that what makes them their IDENTIFYING gender is because they have this or these traits, and feel that a person without them are not the same gender. But its more that we identify with those traits because they match us, they feel right to us, they are us, so we are them.
Anyway, I derailed this I think, I'm sorry about that. Its just the words "your not a woman" and fear of being seen as that does more to damage us than being called freak. So I went on a bit of a rage. But I got it out and I feel Better.
