sorry for making yet another post.
Stressor 1 -
so, a while back I told my HR about my transition plans. I gave them a full-time deadline of August 2nd. The reason I gave them a ton of time is because I'm a planner (lol) and I work with a lot of people. I mean a lot. I work with staff of various branches, volunteers, partnering organizations, a variety of customers (many are long term), walk-in visitors, and children who take classes I teach. whew. So I wanted to make things as easy as possible for everyone.
I didn't plan on coming out publicly until mid-july which would give everyone a few weeks to get used to the idea for August 2nd. So, I get a message from the HR woman talking about sharing the information at the end of June and all sorts of other unexpected stuff. A few days later I find out she's shared the timeline and "plan" with my branch director. I haven't even said it. And the branch director is not flipping trustworthy which is why I went to HR first.
So... I sent a very clear email to the HR person about what I wanted and that I did not want to disclose until mid-july. I also said I was upset she shared it with the director when I hadn't even seen it. (she admitted that was wrong). I also asked about the "education sessions" that were mentioned in the plan. I got these short email saying she needed to balance my needs with the groups and when was I available to talk. So I talk to her Monday (tomorrow). I'm worried about the conversation. I'm worried that this is blowing up in my face. I hate fuss and I don't think this needs to be a huge fuss. We have another person in our work group who transitioned 5 years ago and so most of us are familiar with this. And I really don't want her pushing forward my freaking timeline.
Next worry- ok, this is sort of dumb. I don't have contact with my Family Of Origin (FOO). My best friend and her family has become my family. They live a few states away but are going to be up here this week camping. I have wednesday - Saturday off work and am going to join them. Although we've talked, we haven't seen each other since I told them about my transition. So I'm kind of nervous. And I know it's going to be way hard for them to adjust to my new name. And then it gets more complicated. Her mother-in-law is going to be camping with us. Nice woman but I'm not as close with her and she talks a lot and asks a billion questions. And... to make it even weirder my niece (best friend's girlfriend) boyfriend is going to be there. Never met the guy. I have no idea what he knows. I'm just feeling super awkward and self-conscious. I'm probably being stupid and it will be fine, but this is all so new for all of us and adding in the extra people and....
