what surgery was the most defining surgery for you transition

[Madison (kiara jamie)]

so i was just wondering from the girls that have had many feminizing surgeries,

what was the most defining surgery that you had that was the most beneficial for you to help you with your transition and why?

i know most people will say that the srs was the surgery that changed everything for them, but im just wondering if some of you had a surgery that did more for you than you expected, like did your breast augmentation make you more feminine or did you ffs make you more passable, or did you vfs make you feel like you were now more of a woman from deep inside

just wanted to know what surgery was the "game changer" for you

[mrs izzy]

I worked as in supervision in the construction field so my BA was one thing that gave a lot of mileage with the men. Seems they love cleavage and boobs. So yes the way i dressed did go a long way in getting things done.

But the game changer in my mind was my GCS for sure. It has made a lot of piece in my mind vs body.

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[Julieb1]

Although ive had srs and thr results are in my eyes perfect people wont see that so its got to be my trach shave was as no more adams apple smooth neck line thats the only bit people see.

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[Vicky]

If you count dental work as feminizing surgery here, getting some bad teeth worked on an prettied up was the most noticeable for me.  Most people will not think of that , and it can do sooooooo mmuucchh. The SRS finished me off, my boobs are OK, but I am too old to be top heavy!! 

[VickyMI]

Trach shave which removed the telltale sign of male.  And allowed me to go beyond turtlenecks! 

[Padma]

What's vfs (if it's different from srs)?

[nicolegn7]

As of now it would have to be my breast implants. It was my first surgery and I consider it a game changer for me. That was a few years ago, now its like bleh. I remember I was obsessed with them but now not so much although I know if I did not have them I would not be happy and I do plan on going a bit bigger in the future.

In a few months I will be having my SRS and that will take the place of my implants and will be a total game changer for me. In my opinion it will be the end of my transition and the beginning of my life as a woman. I've been living full time for many years and pass extremely well, so although some say transition never ends for me I feel like it will once I get my SRS.

[GoneGrl]

I only had my SRS. My breasts grew in during my Post Operative years as well as my body so no augmentation.

I think only my SRS were the defining part of my transition.  Without it I would cease to exist.

[Flan]

What's vfs (if it's different from srs)?

So-called vocal fem. surgery which is just a marketing term for the obvious.

[pretty pauline]

Definitely my FFS sugery was the most defining, my nose broken in 2 places, when all the swelling, bruising and numbness receded and soreness eased, when I finally healed I completely passed  and felt completely female, my face is what everybody sees, my SRS surgery just completed my transition, nearly 30 years ago now, that was for me, only the special people in my life sees the SRS results, like my husband, as Im now a married woman, had a breast augmentation about 12 years ago, my breast implants made me more feminine and gave me more confidence, but FFS was more of a defining moment in becoming the woman I am today.

[AnnieMay]

FFS enhanced my appearance in ways that HRT had not. As others have stated, while my SRS was important to me, living my every day life as a woman was most enhanced by FFS.

[calico]

I'd say the most defining surgery would be my srs/grs.  Yes it's not something publicly seen,  but what it did for my mental wellness is undeniable.  It let me finally move forward,  and gave me self confidence in myself. A more direct explanation,  before surgery it didn't matter how flawlessly I passed or how well I became integrated it was always a spot in my mind,  one that no one could see,  it made me feel incomplete,  gave me unrational fears that I wasn't always passing, and somehow made me feel.. fake.  After the surgery all those fears and feelings left my mind and finally allowed me to be.... me, me completely and in my opinion a sense of normality,  something  have always wanted all my life.  So Yea the srs definitely was it for me.

[nicolegn7]

Breast implants. It was my first surgery and it changed everything for me. Then my GRS.

[Natalie]

Yeah, sex reassignment surgery was it for me. The only thing I needed was to get rid of that tumor affixed to my crotch. I do plan on having breast augmentation though.

[suzifrommd]

Only had SRS. I'm keeping my tiny breasts, trach, and sub-optimal face because they're mine and they're real. The way I see it, I'm a woman therefore my face is feminine because it's on a woman. I don't need surgery to make it more feminine.

Though I totally envy women that have had FFS. They are gorgeous!

[Natalie]

It's not fake, people modify their bodies in all types of ways from dieting to exercising, weight lifting. Facial surgeries are modifying their faces to a more suitable presentation just like the person who diets to have a more presentable body to themselves.  I am not sure where the fakeness is coming into play nor how it impacts who they are. Is my vagina a "fake" vagina?

[Zumbagirl]

My first round of FFS surgery where I did my forehead, nose and trachea shave had a very profound impact on my personal confidence. I was happy being out and about in the world and not afraid. Electrolysis also played a big impact as well. Even though it's not a "surgery" it sure was as expensive as any "surgery" I paid for. Lacking facial hair and not needing to put on makeup with a putty knife was pretty amazing. But to be honest, the surgery that definitely changed me psychologically was the SRS surgery. It was like a giant weight coming off of me. It was really quite profound, I can't think of any other way to put it. My BA and lower jaw rework were just icing on the cake for me.

I'm sure it will be different for everyone who answers.

[PinkCloud]

I have no surgery yet, but I reckon that SRS will be the one. I feel uncomfortable without having SRS.

I will not augment my breasts. Got a natural B, and I am happy with it. I won't be influenced by what fashion dictates. Besides I cannot fathom the idea that someone is cutting into my breasts. They are so sensitive. And it is the only thing (besides my hair) that is "natural" grown on me, and I want to keep it that way. Small, but proud. Plus, I am afraid of back pain and sagging in case of augmentation. Clearly augmentation isn't appealing to me at all. I would only do it if my chest was super flat and had no other choice.

As for FFS, I still think about it. Maybe I will do a couple of small procedures. They might help passing, but I guess that I continue to suffer from dysphoria to some degree. No matter what I do. I invested a lot in inner work. Surgery in the mind so to say. Being comfortable who you are is the most important. For me, becoming comfortable is not looking like a hot female a fashion model. I just want to be myself with the least amount of procedures. If that means I will get clocked once a week, then so be it. I don't really mind. I know who I am. I have a trans history and I accept it as such. A much happier and peaceful state of mind than to chase the impossible, and fading beauty. Time will tear the body down. Beauty fades, personality is forever. Therefore I focus on my inner life. The inner sanctum. The only place where happiness can be found.

[Natalie]

I have no surgery yet, but I reckon that SRS will be the one. I feel uncomfortable without having SRS.

I will not augment my breasts. Got a natural B, and I am happy with it. I won't be influenced by what fashion dictates. Besides I cannot fathom the idea that someone is cutting into my breasts. They are so sensitive. And it is the only thing (besides my hair) that is "natural" grown on me, and I want to keep it that way. Small, but proud. Plus, I am afraid of back pain and sagging in case of augmentation. Clearly augmentation isn't appealing to me at all. I would only do it if my chest was super flat and had no other choice.

As for FFS, I still think about it. Maybe I will do a couple of small procedures. They might help passing, but I guess that I continue to suffer from dysphoria to some degree. No matter what I do. I invested a lot in inner work. Surgery in the mind so to say. Being comfortable who you are is the most important. For me, becoming comfortable is not looking like a hot female a fashion model. I just want to be myself with the least amount of procedures. If that means I will get clocked once a week, then so be it. I don't really mind. I know who I am. I have a trans history and I accept it as such. A much happier and peaceful state of mind than to chase the impossible, and fading beauty. Time will tear the body down. Beauty fades, personality is forever. Therefore I focus on my inner life. The inner sanctum. The only place where happiness can be found.

Who said having breast augmentation is influenced by what fashion dictates? When I get breast augmentation it won't be for "fashion" or "relationships" it will be so I am more comfortable being me when I look in the mirror. I have pretty big boobs considering I am pretty small in general, but I want them a certain size which is a lot bigger than they are thus, it's for "me" and not some arbitrary rationale.