Hi everyone. I just posted a brief intro, but wanted to say a bit more here. My spouse of 13 years is MtF, I've known about her gender dysphoria for most of that time (to be honest, I maybe suspected beforehand - we've known each other almost 20 years - but wouldn't have been able to put a name to it). We have one daughter (a kindergartner).
We've had some major ups and downs over the years, which is normal I'm sure, to recently things kind of came to a head. We've been in limbo for SO long. It is hard to keep this secret, and even though I'm only a SO, I've felt the stress of it myself. For the past few years, my SO has transformed so much. She presents as male in everyday life (work, out with friends, etc.) but at home, her body is really more and more feminine. I hate seeing my SO feel that she has to hide, I hate keeping secrets from friends and family, I hate not having the freedom to just BE who we are and fully enjoy ourselves, however that appears to others (I just don't care what people think anymore... God I love being in that place).
Anyhow, last night after a loooooong conversation, my SO basically came out on her Facebook account (you know, to just put it out there and not have to repeat things over and over and over). Almost 24 hours later... quiet as crickets on that post (save for 1 comment and 1 like), which is really unusual. So we're not sure if people read it (it was at a weird hour, though I "bumped" it during the day), if maybe they didn't take it seriously (could they have thought it was a joke?)... I don't know.
So I'm not sure how "out" things really are, but at least they're headed on a track to somewhere. I really feel we'll both be happier for it in the long run, but especially my SO, who has sort of reached a place where she can't transition any further and still pass as a male in public. I feel fairly confident that the family we are close to will be fine (they may not like it and it might be difficult for some of them, but I don't fear them giving us the silent treatment or being disowned or anything). The family that wouldn't be okay is already out of the picture anyhow. Friends are even less of an issue (our careers put us in GLBTQ-friendly circles), though we do live in the Bible belt, so there's that.
Okay, I think I'm starting to babble on and on. I'll end here. Really looking forward to getting to know people here, especially other SO's.
