Timing?

[Monkeymel]

Where abouts would you be heading to in Europe? Certainly Switzerland and Germany are pretty trans aware / not hassling during passport. I travelled with old ID without any issues (except a slightly delayed bemused official in Singapore). And that was when it was clear I was a "ma'am have you swapped seats with Somone? Where Is Mr ...."

Yes it's a pain factoring in studies. But like SRS - it really pays to decide on a priority to help you live in the long term future rather than a short term gain. Having studied for far too many years it was really better to be focused on one thing without the extra baggage of RLE and HRT. And my certificates now have the correct name.

I'm also an overworker but am listening to everyone who has transitioned and told me that I am not supergirl. It will take time to heal. I had thought I could study anatomy again - hmm. A pipe dream. Which will be replaced by making healthy smoothies and returning to bed.

[DolceFragola]

The one year rle is there to protect you from making a wrong decision some of us take a few yrs to become post op mine was 6 yrs so I had my work money etc in place not to mention making sure I could cope.

At least, here, it's free, which is great.

I don't take wrong decisions often. I hardly take any decisions at all and it takes me forever, but when I do, that's what's going to happen. And when I do come to a decision, I'm the exact opposite of "patient". It took me years to get to the conclusion I was a girl, and when that happened, I was full-time in a month and started hormones three months later. I know what I want. The one-year RLE just sounds like gatekeeping to me, because I don't need it... I know it's to prevent bad decisions, etc., but I know acutely what I want. Right now would be the best time for that. I can spare my summer or even my Fall semester.

I think I'll ditch my Winter semester if needed (which it will be). I don't want to wait forever... My "thing" causes me more and more dysphoria as time goes on. When I'm well tucked, it's fine, but when it's not, well... not so. It often hinders my sleep.

Thanks everyone. Sorry if I sound dismissive or something... I'm just not patient. When I take a decision, I know it's right, and I fight to get my way. That's what happened when I was stupidly half-denied my name change. It's just I don't have anything to fight here... It's pure waiting and bad circumstances...

Is surgery in January and a 2-month research trip to Europe in June realistic? It'll be mostly reading archives, etc., not a lot of moving.

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Where abouts would you be heading to in Europe? Certainly Switzerland and Germany are pretty trans aware / not hassling during passport. I travelled with old ID without any issues (except a slightly delayed bemused official in Singapore). And that was when it was clear I was a "ma'am have you swapped seats with Somone? Where Is Mr ...."

Yes it's a pain factoring in studies. But like SRS - it really pays to decide on a priority to help you live in the long term future rather than a short term gain. Having studied for far too many years it was really better to be focused on one thing without the extra baggage of RLE and HRT. And my certificates now have the correct name.

I'm also an overworker but am listening to everyone who has transitioned and told me that I am not supergirl. It will take time to heal. I had thought I could study anatomy again - hmm. A pipe dream. Which will be replaced by making healthy smoothies and returning to bed.

I'll be going to Italy. Mostly Venice. When the important things are done, I would like to see some friends in Switzerland and in the UK.

I really don't know what to focus on... But my transition is important to me at the moment.