Sexuality (intimacy-wise) changes post-T

[LittleEmily24]

Hello fellas There was a topic discussing this in the MTF forum and it raised curiosity for how things work on the other side of wall ~ I thought i'd ask you guys; how did your response to intimacy change after hormones?

Example: for me, pre-hrt it was an emotional connection but physically situated around mostly "one area", and then post-hrt now sex is like a crazy magical experience that makes my body tingle all over and i do things i never did pre-hrt (like moaning ) and my sex drive felt dead for a while before i realized that it wasn't dead, it was just a different engine that needed to be "warmed up" differently hehe

So how did it change for you guys? Or did sexual activity/intimacy remain the same?

[Hex]

I noticed a focused shift pretty early on, matter of fact first couple weeks. My orgasms shifted from the whole body experience of waves up to my head, to becoming more genital oriented and has pretty much stayed that way. I still get some more minor body feelings but it's nothing like it used to be.
Also in a sense and so sorry if this is Trigger warning worthy or just plain TMI, it became trickier on how I achieved orgasm from my now larger penis. Went a few weeks of being frustrated because it was much different in how I was perceiving sensation and new spots I had to find.
Was interesting to say the least. 

[LittleEmily24]

this is totally blowing my mind right now *-*

I'm such a geek ~ i'm reading this and a huge grin is on my face because of how intriguing it is LOL

[Hex]

It really is interesting to think one hormone can have such an impact on a person including the way they achieve and feel orgasm. Always fun to learn and read people's stories on things like this. So right there with you 

[Trez123]

I still have the same problems with getting off as I did pre-T, despite my sex drive being a lot higher and more demanding. I can't reach orgasm most of the time, unless I'm at it for at least an hour, and that just makes me feel like complete sh*t. I haven't had much, if any, change down there, yet, so I still feel uncomfortable with looking at it, yet alone touching it. One major disappointment for me as been that I can't get off without touching it, I used to be able to get off on other things like my butt, lol. I have no sensation there anymore, not without touching that other area :/ Sorry for the negative response, but that's just me. I've been on T almost 8 months.

[Ginny]

Wow, this is really interesting. I didn't know if you posted or not yet Emily so came over to check out the guys' forums. 

I noticed a focused shift pretty early on, matter of fact first couple weeks. My orgasms shifted from the whole body experience of waves up to my head, to becoming more genital oriented and has pretty much stayed that way. I still get some more minor body feelings but it's nothing like it used to be.
Also in a sense and so sorry if this is Trigger warning worthy or just plain TMI, it became trickier on how I achieved orgasm from my now larger penis. Went a few weeks of being frustrated because it was much different in how I was perceiving sensation and new spots I had to find.

That is very interesting, it looks like Trez's arousal also shifted to that more general area.  As for TMI, you should check out the thread that started this question.  It starts picking up a quarter to half down the first page.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,166958.0.html

I kind of thought this would be the response, but was still surprised it when confirmed. Come on other guys! What's your experience? I would like some more data points to draw the picture!

[Trez123]

I don't really see how it's the same, but OK. I hate that part of me even more because of T making me need to touch the feral thing all the time, and making me cry instead of having a good time. But like I said, if that's the same to you, OK. >_>

[Ginny]

I don't really see how it's the same, but OK. I hate that part of me even more because of T making me need to touch the feral thing all the time, and making me cry instead of having a good time. But like I said, if that's the same to you, OK. >_>

Sorry, my point was that the need/arousal went to that general location, not necessarily that you were happy about it. Sorry if thats what you got from my post

[Alex308]

I like how I rarely post because I typically have trouble throwing my life out there online but I'm going to respond to this post. I guess most of the time someone has already responded with exactly what I wanted to say except phrased better so I don't normally feel the need but I had different experience than the people who already responded. Prior to T it was significantly harder for me to get off, like I could do it but it took a lot more work. But I guess the biggest difference was that prior to T when I would get off I still didn't feel fully satisfied, like I still wanted something more. Before T I never enjoyed doing stuff because it never really felt fulfilling but now it's different. I have had growth and it's nice because it helps me pretend like I have the right stuff down there and at least I can get off like a guy now where as before I had to use a vibrator.

In terms of the being focused in one area thing I guess I'd have to say I agree with that. I feel like that may have been why it was never fully satisfying before, it was like there was an itch there that I could never fully scratch before or something. I understand what you mean by full body feeling or more concentrated because it was completely like that. Hex said, "my orgasms shifted from the whole body experience of waves up to my head, to becoming more genital oriented" and I feel like that was a perfect way to describe it. It's funny because I feel like logically feeling something all over should feel better but it didn't. It was like it went from feeling a 6 all over to a 10 in that one spot and it feels so much better.

In terms of having sex I haven't actually slept with anyone since I've had all the changes but I can speculate enough to know that it'll be so much better. I never enjoyed sex before, I would just do it for my partner but now I know I would. Anyways I don't know if any of that made sense or helped but hopefully it did. 

[Ryan55]

I feel like my orgasms were always in that one area for me, i def became hornier, I mean I thought my sex drive was high before hrt, but now its like, i want to hump everything lol i like it though, i always use to just focus on the clit before hrt and now, so that hasn't really changed much, but i'm also still early on with T, my downstairs is getting bigger though I noticed and its more sensitive, not complaining

[Trez123]

Yep. Cool. Why do I feel like I'm a minority when it comes to hating my junk and not being able to get off without feeling like complete sh*t and crying. Guess that's always the way with me. I won't ruin this topic any more than I already have.

[LordKAT]

Yep. Cool. Why do I feel like I'm a minority when it comes to hating my junk and not being able to get off without feeling like complete sh*t and crying. Guess that's always the way with me. I won't ruin this topic any more than I already have.

You haven't ruined anything. You had/have a valid experience and shared it. Nothing wrong with that.

Ales308 shared an experience that no one else has either, it isn't wrong to be different or experience things differently.

[Ginny]

You haven't ruined anything. You had/have a valid experience and shared it. Nothing wrong with that.

Ales308 shared an experience that no one else has either, it isn't wrong to be different or experience things differently.

I agree with LordKAT. As long as you are contributing something of yourself to the topic and being honest, then you aren't ruining it. Emily and I were looking for honest answers because we were just plain curious about the flip side of the coin. I myself am just curious about lots of things. Other people here might actually have the exact same situation happening for them but won't post because of putting it out there for everyone to see. You did that.  And if someone else has that same issue they can see they aren't alone.  I know this probably does little to comfort you, but I think its worthwhile if what you stated could help others who don't feel they are represented and don't feel like they can post.
 
Besides our sample size for you guys is like 3, where you represent 33% of the vote right now! 

Hope you feel better, and also if you haven't, talk this out with someone who can help you discover why you may feel the way you do. I know I've spent lots of time chatting with my new GFs recently about embarrassing problems and thoughts. I haven't used my therapist for gender related issues for the previous few months, but instead rapidly bounce off ideas and feelings without giving it thought. Sometimes she helps me reach a conclusion, others I find it myself just by getting it out there.
~Jen

[Samuel]

1. My sex drive went from "meh" to "omg yes!" - even though I am single and will be for a while.
2. Orgasms went from okay, and feeling them about 50/50 in my external/internal parts, to holy OSM!!! And concentrated in my external junk.
3. I started having visual images pop into my brain, unbidden, of a very sensual/sexual nature. I had never experienced this before. I kind of love it now that I stopped freaking out about it.

[Charliedogist]

Guess I'll throw this out there then, since you're looking for a larger sample size, lol.

Before T, I had an almost nonexistent sex drive. My partner would have to work to get me in the mood, and half the time I wouldn't orgasm during sex and would have to use a vibrator to orgasm. After T, my sex drive skyrocketed. It has it's moods I guess, there are some weeks (I take a shot weekly, just FYI) where I could probably get off two or three times a day if I wasn't in school or at work all day lol. Then some weeks, like last week it was just like, I guess a quite itch? I could ignore it. Other times, there is NO ignoring it.

Sex (I have a male partner) is still fun, I still enjoy it, but I definitely derive more pleasure from the penis lol. Clit? Whatever. Penis. It's taken some work, because it responds differently after the growth it's gone through than it did from before T. I still use a vibrator, who cares, it feels good, and I can get off without bothering my partner if he has to work or something.

Orgasms no longer take an hour to an hour and a half either. I can get off in probably under three minutes.

Also, what I like as far as fantasy wise I guess, has changed. I watch porn now, whereas before I didn't like porn very much at all. I used to read to get off, and while I still do that on occasion, my tastes have become much more visual.

And yes, instead of a full body orgasm, it's much more concentrated if I'm getting myself off. If I'm having sex with my partner, then I can still have the other kind of orgasm, but it's not as intense as it used to be, unless I've already gotten off. If that makes sense.

This is weird lol. I don't talk about this stuff most of the time. :p

[T-man]

Hello fellas There was a topic discussing this in the MTF forum and it raised curiosity for how things work on the other side of wall ~ I thought i'd ask you guys; how did your response to intimacy change after hormones?

Example: for me, pre-hrt it was an emotional connection but physically situated around mostly "one area", and then post-hrt now sex is like a crazy magical experience that makes my body tingle all over and i do things i never did pre-hrt (like moaning ) and my sex drive felt dead for a while before i realized that it wasn't dead, it was just a different engine that needed to be "warmed up" differently hehe

So how did it change for you guys? Or did sexual activity/intimacy remain the same?

Pre-T I always wanted to, atleast once a day. Post-T I wanted it around 4 times a day. This didnt sit well with my girlfriend at the time. So I ended up going solo 3 of the 4 times. I don't always do it 4 times a day, but usually either twice in a row with a 15 minute break inbetween or once before bed and once when I wake up. It sounds crazy but I like it so I don't really care. Pre-T there was no love juice happening really, Post-T I am going through the tissues like theres no tomorrow. Which is strange because I thought it would have the opposite effect. Again, dont care tissues are my friend now.

Change of feeling, I can't say i've noticed that. But it is like a small penis so it feels more realistic and you can actually grab it and it feels like you are grabbing something not just flicking a bean.  Goodbye Bean! Hello giant whatever 2-3-4cm giant penis all the women want! gigantic. 

Also T and muscle means lasting longer, performing better. If I didn't do it as often as I do I don't think I would last very long. You just feel like it has to be done otherwise it gets in the way of what else you're trying to do. Almost feel sorry for the next mama i'm going to make love with. 

[Chloevixen]

Wow, I always tend to forget the other side of the coin...sorry.
I have noticed a major change in what arouses me and how the orgasm has changed.  While I was trying to be male the thought of sex was near constant so was the drive.  Now 6 months into HRT it has completely flipped.  Reading versus seeing, the quality or feel of orgasm, duration.  Even the change in what you are looking for in partner was kinda strange.  The cavewoman instincts kicking in did catch me off guard the other day.  I caught myself admiring one of the mechanics at the marina I live in, and realized I was thinking "wow he would be a good provider to my babies" versus the old thought of "make as many as possible with as many women as possible".

I really do believe that was the base difference between, Estrogen and Testosterone. 

[Natkat]

Before T I was normal horny teeneger, thinking about sex and wanting to get laid but not really that confortable in my own skin.

then after T I became super horny and more confidence which resulted in me having my sluttish-period where I wanted to get off all the time at all diffrent kind of places.
I also started to watch porn for other reason than just curiousity, pre-T I could not find straight porn arousing.

right now I settle down of my slut-period, so I am just a normal perv, but really not anything special.

[T-man]

Before T I was normal horny teeneger, thinking about sex and wanting to get laid but not really that confortable in my own skin.

then after T I became super horny and more confidence which resulted in me having my sluttish-period where I wanted to get off all the time at all diffrent kind of places.
I also started to watch porn for other reason than just curiousity, pre-T I could not find straight porn arousing.

right now I settle down of my slut-period, so I am just a normal perv, but really not anything special.

lol.