Cheery-bye Loves

[RosieD]

Hi all,

I'm writing this because one of the things that I have consistently found disconcerting is that people here tend to post loads, then post a lot less, then just disappear.  Given the delicacy of folks in our situation it tends to leave things dangling and a bit unresolved.  Rather than add to that pile of uncertainty I'd like to say I'm probably, mostly, off. 

Not because life is vile and unbearable, rather quite the opposite.  I am sorry but whilst I remember what it was like being stuck in that whirlwind of self-doubt, hope, despair, questions and realisations that is transitioning I bumped on out the other side.  You're all a bit lovely, obviously, but anything I might add to conversations is going to sound a bit lamely removed and probably end up not helping a lot.

So deepest respects to people like Ms Grace, Cindy, Devlyn and everyone else that looks out for those following on behind long after they have left the desperation zone.  I am amazed at your fortitude and empathy.  And most especially to Susan. I am not quite sure I understand how you do it but I am very grateful that you do.

And maybe we could have a new area for these kind of messages as a juxtaposition to the introductions thread?  Perhaps a "M'wa! Love you" one?

Rosie

[Devlyn]

Big hug! Remember this? Your first post, almost three years ago:

Well I've lurked and read (and read) and then read some more before reading for a bit starting about a month ago and I first accepted what I'd known for years.

Thanks to the information, wisdom, support and care evident throughout the site I've managed the most important step of my transition,  coming out to my wife. This may have been the scariest thing I've done but thankfully has (so far) been much, much easier than I'd feared. Now we've added outfits and makeup to our conversations with me being lucky enough to have advice from a truely wonderful and gorgeous woman.

And on the formalities side of things, I'm 42 and live in sunny Wales. Looking forwards to sharing this adventure with everyone on here.

Nikki

You're going in my book as a graduate, hon, a success story! Best wishes to you, and I hope you find your way back to visit sometime!

Hugs, Devlyn

[stephaniec]

I'm confused is this a good bye note or are you just saying thanks. maybe the word juxtaposition got me.

[Beth Andrea]

I felt much the same...I transitioned (mostly, just biding time until SRS now), and did take leave from here for a while.

When I came back, it felt...different. Like I had just graduated high school, and went to visit my Jr high school..."Been there, done that" and yet, I couldn't interact with the newbies because there were differences in "the era" that I was in when I first came here vs now.

I don't remember what I was leading up to, so...best wishes in your future endeavors, and please drop in once in a while!

*hugs*

[Zoetrope]

Actually I do understand, Rosie.

As we go through life (transitioning or not! we all have a journey) ... our needs also change.

We also feel differently about where we fit in socially.

I have left and come back to LGBT communities for these same reasons. I have gone from needing to support, to 'coming out the other side' and not needing it, to now simply looking for like minds to bounce off.

You do what you need to do, be where you need to be, and enjoy life. It is yours :~)

All the best, and take care

x

[kittenpower]

Bye, best wishes