Visiting Dubai

[Jessica Merriman]

she's very hesitant to tell him.

Personally I would be very wary of this. If for some reason you had problems over there you would not be able to get assistance from him. He may even report you if he has an issue with you. You say you are very realistic, but yet you have turned down some good advice from someone who has been there multiple times. I hope you reconsider visiting there until he is aware and accepting of you.

[Ephemeral]

Personally I would be very wary of this. If for some reason you had problems over there you would not be able to get assistance from him. He may even report you if he has an issue with you. You say you are very realistic, but yet you have turned down some good advice from someone who has been there multiple times. I hope you reconsider visiting there until he is aware and accepting of you.

Visiting him is not my first priority. It was simply an option I thought of because we were discussing this subject recently so I thought hey, maybe I should properly investigate this instead of just assuming it's totally unsafe. As for his reactions if I see them, idk.

[Jessica Merriman]

Visiting him is not my first priority.

I understand that. What I meant is who would you turn for help in another country if you got into some difficulty or problem? If it is a big legal problem or something of that nature and she has not told her father about you where would you get assistance. You would be on your own. I hope you see what I mean here. 

[Natkat]

Your long distance issues sound very typical. 

I will value that much more highly than "they are Muslim so it's not safe". I also understand that cispeople's experiences differ from that of a transperson. 

True, you can't really use these aguments either.

. The plan is that she is going to move to another country next year and I'll move to her once I'm done with all the stuff concerning my transition in Sweden.

the optimal would sure be if she could move to Sweden 

[Ephemeral]

I understand that. What I meant is who would you turn for help in another country if you got into some difficulty or problem? If it is a big legal problem or something of that nature and she has not told her father about you where would you get assistance. You would be on your own. I hope you see what I mean here. 

Yes, it's a fair point and I appreciate that because I didn't think quite that far since I am still stuck in hypotheticals here. Ah, love, it messes with your brain in more than one way.

Your long distance issues sound very typical. 

lol, never claimed it wasn't. I wish it wasn't LDR, I really do, I told myself many years ago never LDR again because I was in one but same country back then, well... that worked out well.

the optimal would sure be if she could move to Sweden 

I think I'm going to leave here too in the future. I am starting to feel like an oddball and I don't really fit in anymore. What I want from my life isn't to be found here. I am just using it as a starting pad in order to get where I really want to be. The good thing with Sweden is that it offers a lot of possibilities other countries don't. Free surgery for example. Gonna use it and abuse it with the tax money I have paid myself.

[Natkat]

I hope you'll find a place which is suitable for both of you.