Attracting the Opposite Sex?

[Gina_Z]

As HRT changes your appearance, what have you experienced in terms of how men are now attracted to you? Are most women no longer looking at you as an attractive male? Are men now treating you as an attractive female? What are your experiences? 

[Carrie Liz]

About 5 months into HRT, I got hit on by a gay guy at work. (In a VERY forward manner.) He could basically see my effeminacy.

And women actually seemed to get a little more comfortable around me. That's pretty much my experience, is that as everything softens up, people stop seeing you as being so much of a threat. Some people here have said that women started seeing them as being more attractive, but in my case people just started reading me as gay.

But that's kinda always been the case, is that even though I've never been into guys, people have just always assumed that I'm gay, and women have always been pretty okay with talking to me in a friendly manner... which just became even moreso as the hormones did their magic.

Now that I'm full-time, I've heard a couple of offhanded comments from friends of friends about how they thought I was attractive, but it's yet to become an issue like it is for most cis-girls, where they're constantly dealing with unwanted advances. I think people can still tell that I'm trans, though, so although they're nice to me, they don't see me as an attractive woman, just more as technically a woman.

[Eva Marie]

I am 9 months into taking a transitioning dose of HRT. So far I have gotten hit on by a guy that saw me and a friend eating in a restaurant - he approached me on the sidewalk outside the restaurant and was pretty aggressive. Other than that no one has made any passes toward me. My experience is like Carrie's - women have been noticeably more friendly toward me now and I've noticed the same from gay men.

I don't detect much interest in me when I'm in guy mode from women which is just as well since guy mode is about to end.

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

I get asked out and complimented fairly regularly. I can't say I mind the attention though. I suppose at some point it might get tiresome, but maybe not. I like to feel like I am attractive and am still using attention to validate myself to some extent. I suppose if I weren't then it would be a different matter. Plus, I am single so attention is more welcome than when you're not.

Women do seem to be more open with me.

[Virginia]

I am a 54 year old male, have been on a transition level estrogen HRT regimen for about 4 1/2 years to control my dissociative identity disorder and have been happily married for almost 25. Men in my family do not wear wedding rings and I can pretty objectively say HRT has had no influence one way or the other on cisgender women being attracted to me. LOL, I can only remember being hit on by a woman three times in my entire life.

Psychologically, my female alter is only 13. She fronts for the System in public about a hundred hours a month and is approached by heterosexual men about once every other month since she became self aware in 2009. The attention is good for her ego, but she is not sexually attracted to anyone and respects that I am married, so she wears a wedding set to discourage people from approaching her. It still happens, usually while she is sunbathing, reading in the park, eating or standing in line. My female alter blushes and does her best so the guys do not feel awkward when they invariably notice her ring as they talk. Everyone has been polite, and in the dozens of times she has been approached, no one has ever pressed her once they realized she was married.

Neither of us have ever been hit on by someone of our own gender.

As a point of reference, I posted both of our pictures on a web dating site. After about 200 votes, my female alter was rated a solid 5.6 on the classic 10 point scale (no, I did not stuff the ballot box   My results were so embarrassing I didn't bother to record them; a handful of votes and a score of less than 2...

[KayXo]

I get the feeling but could well be my imagination, not 100% sure, that men can tell when my levels are high versus lower because I seem to be hit on more or looked at more often when my levels are high, the response is different.