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Started by hardlife, July 05, 2014, 08:43:07 PM

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hardlife

I seen one person in the past for my gender problems. He was not a gender therapist, but he said he had a friend that was a gender therapist. Apparently, he goes to her to learn about transsexuals. Which is good.

I am very poor and had to pay 50$ dollars for therapy after I have lost the worst job I ever had in life. I only had eight therapy sessions and they definitely did not help. In fact I felt worst about my problems then when I first came in. In one of our therapy session he decided to end the therapy thirty minutes early because I had nothing to talk to him about. Its basically the same thing day in and day out. I feel depress, suicidal, hate myself, hate my past life, really hate my past jobs, never had friends and a meaningful relationship, people make up lies about me in and out of college/work, work abuse, etc... My life was no better then when I was a kid. The neighbors pick on me, never had contact with anyone in school - period (NEVER), people rob me in the streets one time when I went to the store. My childhood was not exciting. Many years I spend my time being very jealous at all the girls, while all these horrible things happen to me. When something bad happens and I cry my stepdad threaten to hit me with a belt.

I don't see my last therapist because I ran out of money. Honestly, am not going to see him again because he has no ideal what he is doing. There are some things he wants me to do, but I feel like its too much. Then when I do something that seems more like a jump rather then a baby step he gets worry. Isn't he suppose to be supporting me? What happen with, go at the patients paste of speed. sometime he is too fast and too slow which bothers me a lot.

If I ever get another job I am definitely going to a gender therapist and not a person who knows a gender therapist. What a waste of money.
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Suziack

Hardlife,  You're right - a therapist with no gender training and experience who can't or won't do anything to help you is a waste of time and money. However, if you lost the worst job you ever had, that might be considered a good thing. Good luck on your job search. What kind of work are you looking for?
If you torture the truth long enough, it'll confess to anything.
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hardlife

I do not know what kind of work I want. But I sure know that I do not want my previous job. I went to my college advisor about what career interest me and no luck, am still confuse. Soon am getting my associates in business administration and will be going for my bachelors next year.

My advisor convince me to go with my degree because there are many opportunities open for me. Although, I am not sure what I want to do. I know that I don't want to open up a business anytime soon. There is many things that I can do with business administration and I am not sure what to do.

I have look into one career that seems interesting I guess. it is called Actuary. One person I talk to work as one and says you need to know your way around business, how to use computers, and be good with math. which sounds a little like me, but am still not sure if it is right for me. I only heard of it from a person and have no experience to back up on if I like the career or not.

Hopefully, by the time I get a bachelors or a masters degree I will know what I want to do with my life and for work.
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TessaMarie

When in college:  Do something you enjoy, and become very, very good at it.  With that you are likely to find a career.

Do also bear in mind that actuarial work involves a lot of report writing, in addition to excellent mathematics skills.  You should plan to be able to do this in any business career. 

I worked as an actuarial technician for 3 years back home.  I just needed to be extremely good at maths (ie: able to work out problems faster than my future boss).  Although, I almost didn't get hired because my English grades were so low.  The boss took a chance with me on that.  The field is harder to get into now in another century on another continent.

On a therapist:  It does sound like your therapist did not know how to do their job very well.  I do go visit my wife's therapist with her from time to time, and he is well able to deal with my trans issues & how they are affecting my marriage despite not being trained in gender therapy.  A really good therapist will be able to help you through anything.  They are hard to find. 

Surviving that job means that you are better prepared for the next one.  I had to repeat mistakes in many jobs over many years before learning how to better deal with difficult people & situations.  Don't do that.  Try to learn something useful about yourself from each job, no matter what the job is.
Gender Journey:    Male-towards-Female;    Destination Unknown
All shall be well.
And all shall be well.
And all manner of things shall be well.    (Julian of Norwich, c.1395)
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