Hello all! I'm from the Middle of Nowhere, USA - rural, bible belt and feeling a bit dazed and confused since my husband of 20 plus years tells me he has the urge to CD. This was in May and while I have coped for the most part I'm still having issues and trying to make sense of this new life. I love my husband and our family so we can both find a way to meddle through this and still have each of us be happy. That is my biggest issue right now I think.
I'm just not sure that we can both be happy and not resent the other in some way? You could say when he told me I had a bit of a melt down. The idea of it turned me off - and I was also torn because I consider my self a very open minded person and have a few gay friends and am a firm believe of it's not a choice you just are. I love my husband so I want him to be sure to be true to himself but because of the nature of this I also didn't want to be married to someone that one day may or may not want to transition into a woman. He is adamant that he is 100% hetro but seeing this NEW side of him I'm wondering? I say new side of him because this is all completely different from the him I married. He was never one that was at all femme he had no 'sensitive side' all the material I collected said you know this person it's just a deeper version - well he's not - it's a whole new person and more the opposite of what he was so this is really hard.
Anyway I'm just trying to make my way through this and hoping to find a few friends and support along the way.
Coping2014
