for all the non-married single trans how often do you date

[stephaniec]

I've been single forever. I use to date a lot along time ago. I'm trying to slowly enter the dating scene again , but it's not a life of death situation because I have things to do and I'm around people all the time even though they are quite a bit young then me. Just curious of how the dating scene is for you or is it important or not at the moment because of transition.

[immortal gypsy]

Two jobs both at near full time hours working to clear a debt and build up the transition warchest, sometimes I don't get time to see my friends half the time. While I would like someone special in my life would it be really fair on them. My last two girlfriends where from work, we saw more of each other there then we did outside of work

[Blue Senpai]

Dating is at the bottom of my list and it wouldn't be fair to my partner to try hard to think of me as a man for my sake.

Also, there are these reasons:

1. 12 year old boy look.
2. Apparently being only 5'5 is a big deal.
3. Androgynous voice.
4. I'm technically not a man yet.
5. My body leaves little to the imagination.

[kelly_aus]

I date when the opportunity arises. I also have a FWB or 2. I had a partner for a while. Any one who does date me, however, is made well aware of the situation well before. Yes, it trims down the number of dates, but it's their loss.. I'm rarely lonely..

[Carrie Liz]

Never.

I've kind of given up on it for the time being... kind of hard to imagine why anyone would want to put up with dating me when not only do I have to deal with the trans stigma, but I also don't even like myself.

[Umiko]

<---------forever alone 

[suzifrommd]

Just curious of how the dating scene is for you or is it important or not at the moment because of transition.

Very important. I'm sick of being alone. Before I had to stop for my surgery, I was sending out inquiries on OKCupid. Since the start of the year, I dated five women. Three first dates without any second dates. One friendzoned me immediately. There was one I dated for about a month before she decided she wasn't ready for a relationship.

As soon as I'm healed, I'm planning to try again.

I'm posting my dating adventures here if anyone wants to share in the misery.

[Emily1996]

For now, I'm happy being alone XD although I always have the dream wedding goal thingy which even if it's not gonna happen soon because I'm still in high school, but I don't want anyone and I think that while finding myself out and stuff I realized that I don't need the dream wedding neither, so I don't know if I need someone in the future... but I might change my mind! Although after a certain age, if I don't find anyone then I think I will stop looking... While right now I'm not looking at all. It's just me, and it's gonna be like this for some time.

[Autumn]

I've yet to date since I started transitioning. It just seems so farfetched that any girl would be into me.

[kelly_aus]

I've yet to date since I started transitioning. It just seems so farfetched that any girl would be into me.

You can have one of the 4 I'm seeing..

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I've gotten used to a relatively drama free life unless I have to break up a stuffed animal fight, but they generally get along ok...

Oy! Those are the worst. Mine are more or less well behaved. But ever since Debra, the new girl, showed up. Doris is always picking a fight with her and I think that Portia may be a tad jealous of her. I don't know why, though.

As far as dating is concerned: I'm just not interested in it since I'm always going to be pre-op and that will be an issue with most women. Also, there is little to no real LGBT community around here.

[Sammy]

I will post a feedback in a few hours, cause I am having my first date today .

[Carrie Liz]

Before Emily posted, I was going to say "wow, this thread is depressing."

[Umiko]

Before Emily posted, I was going to say "wow, this thread is depressing."

i know right. i dont feel loved  *rolls into a ball and starts crying*

[Sammy]

Hey, no worries - he still might stood up .

[V M]

I've been single forever. I use to date a lot along time ago. I'm trying to slowly enter the dating scene again , but it's not a life of death situation because I have things to do and I'm around people all the time even though they are quite a bit young then me. Just curious of how the dating scene is for you or is it important or not at the moment because of transition.

I bought into the 'Just Friends' program quite awhile ago and kinda like it

Haven't been on a date for several years, not all too concerned about it either though

But who knows, maybe that special someone will appear on a flaming pie in the sky but I'm not going to hold my breath too long

Sure, I get lonely at times, but I basically shut the door on the idea of dating and romance, just didn't lock it, keeping my options open

[Emily1996]

I will post a feedback in a few hours, cause I am having my first date today .

Oh that's amazing, tell us how it went and good luck :3

[Hikari]

I wouldn't mind dating again, but at the very least that is going to wait until I am full time. I don't want to be seen as male at all by a potential partner, and it will likely wait until after SRS that I actually pursue someone. My current plan is to just be more social and if something happens great, but I am not looking for it until after I am rid of that thing.

[Danniella]

I have been trying online dating for a few months now...but my results have been somewhat less than stellar >.>

Some choice extracts from my recent online dating experiences, at the point when I inform a potential date that I am trans...

"Oooooh, you're a transsexual? I knew there was something weird about your face"

"So what do you look like when you dress up as a girl?"

"Oh I know exactly what you mean, I knew a ->-bleeped-<- once, but he killed himself a few years ago"

"HOLY ->-bleeped-<- REALLY? Hang on, you're not a prostitute are you? Is that why you are on this site?"

"So why does your profile say you are female?"

"I'm fine with that, I'm totally open minded! I went to this crazy club once and it was full of gay people people in bondage and guys dressesd as girls etc, it was rad."

And my all time favourite...for it's marvellously deep subtext alone.

"Oh...well that's ->-bleeped-<-."

-sigh-

I reckon that if I wasn't a hopeless romantic, I would have given up by now...yet I keep trying, choosing to believe that person is out there somewhere, the one who will love me for being me...

I just gotta wade through some ->-bleeped-<- to find them first

besides, like hell did I give up a happy marriage, and a 10 year relationship with the love of my life, to be forever alone till the end of my days!!! xD

[Janae]

I do the online thing it has it's up's and downs, but it's easy and convenient.

I'm currently "talking" to a nice guy I met last year online, we're taking things slowly and working towards the future.

BTW why so many sour out looks, there's someone for everyone don't just throw up your hands and give up.

Nothing beats a fail but a good try, Be optimistic.