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Started by solexander, July 24, 2014, 02:14:48 PM

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solexander

Decided to start a happy memories thread about moments when you felt really elated about the progress you were making, people around you, things like that. I'll start with my top three:
1. When my mom, last Christmas when we were decorating the tree, turned to me with the star to go on top and said "Do you wanna do the honors, son?"
2. When my great-grandma hugged me when I saw her the first time I saw her since starting transition and, after not mentioning my gender the entire time we were together, said "You're a very handsome young man, Alexander".
3. When I went swimming last summer and wore a binder to the ocean, and didn't leave until the sun started to set and felt so happy to be happy and be myself again.
What were some nice moments for you?





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alabamagirl

The first time I met a girl who saw me as a woman. Not a transitioning-to-be woman. Not a woman in a male body. Just a woman, no different than any other. That was probably the best feeling. A feeling of finally being accepted completely as myself. :)

Others...

The first time I put on female clothes. Such an incredible calm came over me. And sort of an excitement. Things just felt right.

The first time I put on makeup (actually, my mum put it on me!).
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solexander

That's really sweet! I'm so glad you had those experiences :)





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Dee Marshall

My son's girlfriend, after I obliquely referred to being trans, said, he "told me you were because he needed someone to talk to. I talked him down and he understands better. We're both behind you and I can't wait to take you shopping. Nothing you can do will upset me... unless you get bigger boobs than mine."

Later she told me she was mostly a lesbian and was about to completely give up on men until she met him. "Now I know why he has all those qualities I love, he was raised by two women," she said.
April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!
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solexander

Aww, Dee, yours almost made me tear up a little, that's really sweet!





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eli77

A handful:

1. Having all the feeling crushed out of my body in a hug by my dad after I finally managed to come out to him. He was the first family member I told, and the one I was most worried about. Then he said, "I'll always love you no matter what" and that was even better.

2. "I really want to get these peas on your head." --my sister. They were frozen. She was looking after me in Boston when I had my facial surgery. She was the best nurse ever.

3. I had just finished explaining to my best friend why I was so scared of moving to Toronto: worried about my history, worried I couldn't cope, that I'd fall back into bad habits... He just looked at me like I was crazy and blurted out, "But you are a completely different person now!" I know for some that's not what they want, but for me it felt so good.

4. The queer girl trying to get donations for Red Cross on the sidewalk who said, "Hey miss, a moment of your time..." and when I turned to her, "Wow you have really pretty eyes." I was only four months into HRT, and it was the first time I really felt "I can do this, it's going to work out."
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solexander

Aww! Sarah, I'm so proud of you for everything you've obviously gone through. That's so sweet.





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suzifrommd

All happened within a few days of getting my current wig:

1. Went to a party and was met by a friend I'd known for more than 10 years. I had informed him about my transition via email and he knew I would probably be there that night. When he looked at me, there was no spark of recognition, nor was there from his wife and from another friend I'd known for many years. It was only after I was introduced that they understood who I was.

2. I went to a hypnosis workshop for the first time as Suzi. All the men wanted to hypnotize me and the women were super friendly. No one read me as trans.

3. I handed a Sears clerk my credit card which still had my male (legal) name on it. He wanted to know if it was my husband's card. I told him it was a name I go by. He wouldn't believe me. Almost had to trot out my deep male voice to get him to accept the card.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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GorJess

Being pointed out, even before hormones, or trying anything, that my backside looked like a girl, some guy 'caught' himself, and apologized. I was sad he apologized, but was reassuring.

From there, a lot...

Going out with family on my 21st birthday, to really show they supported me in every way possible last year. A week after, getting my hair done, finally seeing just ME back in the mirror, a really pretty girl, at only 7 months back. My mother, sisters, the rest of my family are all THE BEST family I could ever hope to have for this. You name it, they do it for my transition; love them SO much for this, they will never know. If she could, my mother would cover SRS, which really...it's amazing. They've made my life possible.

Then, basically just blending in all the time as another girl throughout school, really easily. Not to mention, life, I'm just seen as another woman, 99% of the time-though I do get some looks from the guys, hehe, though I think they try to hide it a bit. Apparently, I look good, even if I don't see it all the time; Facebook and family reassure me of this.

Lately, it's been advocacy work-doing the documentary I'm in, presenting in Philly with folks like Jazz, making a lot more friends, making differences for happier lives, etc. Finally, I am not alone, for the first time in my life, not to mention, so much more social, better posture, just my overall self, you know?

Last but not least, my prom, which thankfully was filmed. I met a life goal that day, to become prom queen, and my date was FTM, he got named prom kind. How cool is that, not only as a couple, but both transitioning too? I think we were the first in the world to be a dual transition prom royalty. I felt SO beautiful that night, like a model. Anytime I feel down, I go back to making a difference, and how I felt that night. I want my fellow youth transitioners to feel that GREAT about themselves, to know anything is possible, that things can and will be good.
You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world. -Woodrow Wilson





With Dr. Marci Bowers in San Mateo
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Ryan55

When I first cut my hair and got a guy haircut...yeah such a happy moment..its when I started to see the real me


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Carol Chastleton

Quote from: solexander on July 24, 2014, 02:14:48 PM
Decided to start a happy memories thread about moments when you felt really elated about the progress you were making, people around you, things like that. ...
What were some nice moments for you?

What a sweet idea Alexander.  Here are some of mine:

- The first time I waltzed out into the world as exactly who I am ... I was 19, it was summertime in the big city and I looked goood!
- Sitting in a shrink's office with my parents when I was 20 and hearing him assure them that I was "OK", just transsexual.
- When I was 24 and the love of my life asked me to marry him (even though I didn't, and it ended badly).
- Realizing that I've lived more of my life as a female, than I ever did in boy-mode.
- Being over 60 and still turning heads every now & then.

Carol
Carol
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"Old age is no place for sissies."
Bette Davis



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Jessica Merriman

My first day of living full time. All of the fear, heartache and depression left forever and I felt totally alive and free. The time, hard work and frustration finally paid off and I knew I would have a successful and happy life from that point.  :)
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Eva Marie

1. My first time going out as Eva. I went big and went to a very busy LGBT bar in San Diego and had a blast. No one paid any attention to me whatsoever.

2. Realizing that I had made my first real girl friend, and sitting with her for hours discussing girl stuff.

3. Getting my first "mam".

4. Having random women strike up conversations with me In public and having them smile at me and realizing that they saw me as just another female.

5. Telling selected people about me and discovering that I have very enthusiastic allies.

6. Realizing that I had crossed and burned a bridge and there is no going back.
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solexander

I love hearing all your stories! It's really nice to hear about other people going through good things. I'll add another two: after spending time with my cousin for the first time since starting transition, she texted me just to tell me how proud she was of me and how happy I seemed and how much I seemed like myself again. Also, my first "sir"- I was just starting to present as male, and was on vacation with my family in Florida. We went on this ghost tour of the city we were in, and when I went to tip the guide, he said "well, thank you, sir!" and I was just over the moon... ended up getting ice cream to celebrate and texted all my friends about it, haha.





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Dee Marshall

Quote from: solexander on July 25, 2014, 11:14:34 PM
...Also, my first "sir"- I was just starting to present as male, and was on vacation with my family in Florida. We went on this ghost tour of the city we were in, and when I went to tip the guide, he said "well, thank you, sir!" and I was just over the moon... ended up getting ice cream to celebrate and texted all my friends about it, haha.

St. Augustine, perhaps? That was a very cool tour!
April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!
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solexander

Quote from: Dee Walker on July 25, 2014, 11:24:22 PM
St. Augustine, perhaps? That was a very cool tour!
Hey, yeah! It was! It was a really cool tour, haha. Even cooler with the addition of being gendered correctly for the first time  8)





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StevieAK

When my wife bought me some perfume as an "I love you" present. A lilac scent for my lilac tattoo. :)
When my 15 year old daughter hugs me and tells me she loves me just the way I am.
When I told some close employees and they said"we figured, we like the new improved you"
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solexander

Aww! I'm so glad your family is so sweet to you :) (also I bet that's a really cool tattoo)





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StevieAK

Quote from: solexander on July 25, 2014, 11:37:44 PM
Aww! I'm so glad your family is so sweet to you :) (also I bet that's a really cool tattoo)

when some nice good looking guy said "really cool tattoo" :)

the tat on my right breast is a lilac flower (my wifes favorite flower, she said once she wished they bloomed all year, so they do)
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Miss_Bungle1991

The day that I got my gender marker changed at the SSA. I thought that it was a long shot, but it was no problem at all.

The day that I got my new ID card with the "F" on it. (I don't drive so I don't have a driver's license.)
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