How to go about wearing a binder in front of family for the first time?

[nikkie]

I'd like to go full time wearing a binder. I'm currently living at home, I'm in my 20's so I'm not worried about getting kicked out or anything. But also, I'm not out as trans. But I have been doing things slowly. For example, I threw away all my girl clothes and bought guy clothes, this is normal since I've done it before in my teens. Cut my hair off...waited three weeks and cut it shorter, again this is normal as I did this years ago in my teens. Back then I was getting ready to transition but failed to find enough resources to support my transition. I did start to bind as a teen and my dad asked me about it and I kind of just didn't want to talk about it and stopped after a few days. I kind of chickened out because he had freaked out when I told him I liked girls. I really didn't want to have him freak out on me again. Sooo, Now I'm much older and have resources to support my transition. I support my own bills and work. My parents thought it would be a good idea to have me live with them while I got my life together after a bad break-up. Now I'm ready to start binding full time I just don't really know how to go about it.

My idea is that they will put 2 and 2 together and figure things out on their own. My family does have this thing where everyone knows I like girls and just don't talk about it. So, I'm hoping that they will do the same with this. So far everything is going pretty good. The only difference now is that they know that I'm older and don't control me.

Any advice/opinions?

Thanks

[invisiblemonsters]

honestly they probably won't even notice but that is my experience though.

[SX0877]

If they notice, they will probably also realize that it is a very personal situation that should not be asked about.

[nikkie]

If they notice, they will probably also realize that it is a very personal situation that should not be asked about.

My dad is known for just saying things because he likes to point out the obvious. He's always been this way. I just hope that he does it in a nice way.

Thanks

[nikkie]

honestly they probably won't even notice but that is my experience though.

I'm very large, there is a big difference. >.<  It's okay though. I guess I just have to be prepared.

[Skyler]

They didnt notice until my dad looked at my bank statement and wondered what underworks was.

[AdamMLP]

Mine never noticed either.

If possible I wouldn't bind around the house though. I didn't see a problem with it to start with, but now taking it off is the first thing I do when I get home. You'll appreciate the breaks, trust me!

[nikkie]

They didnt notice until my dad looked at my bank statement and wondered what underworks was.

My parents used to "accidentally" open my mail. Now I have everything electronic. lol

[nikkie]

Mine never noticed either.

If possible I wouldn't bind around the house though. I didn't see a problem with it to start with, but now taking it off is the first thing I do when I get home. You'll appreciate the breaks, trust me!

Very true, I'll be taking tons of breaks from it since I don't want to get hurt. Thanks!

[Edge]

I also have a big chest. It still took people awhile to notice I was wearing a binder. By "awhile" I mean I wore it to their place for months and they didn't notice until I came out as trans to them.

[Kyler]

My mom walked in on me putting mine on once. She didn't say anything about it, as far as I recall.
Eventually, while out, she asked me, "Doesn't that hurt?" And I knew exactly what she was talking about, I said no.
That's about all that was ever said... But my mom always knew I wasn't feminine, so it probably wasn't a surprise that I didn't want breast.

[Ayden]

I just started wearing one. My dad asked me once about it by not asking at all because asking about his only daughters ta-tas weirded him out. I think he said something like "did you...uh... Is that a new shirt?"
"Nope."
"It looks different."
"Yep."
"Uh..."
I just stared until he backed off and he never asked again. My mom asked once and I told her flat out I was wearing a binder. She never said anything. I think she had noticed that I rarely wore my actual bras anyway.

[Maleth]

I've been binding full time for nearly a whole year now. Though I wasn't really big in that department in the first place and I've always worn sports bras only before that.. I can't stand the thought of wearing a regular bra. I had to do it once for a formal dance, but never again. >.< Just makes me shudder thinking about it

[Alexthecat]

Just do it. They can't really tell you not to.

[Adam (birkin)]

Yeah I am also of the "just do it" camp. In most situations they won't ask because it is kind of rude. If they do ask something like "where are your boobs?" Just be like "uh, where they have always been?" Lol. If they keep pressing just be like "they must look smaller in this shirt or something."

[nikkie]

Yeah I am also of the "just do it" camp. In most situations they won't ask because it is kind of rude. If they do ask something like "where are your boobs?" Just be like "uh, where they have always been?" Lol. If they keep pressing just be like "they must look smaller in this shirt or something."

"Where are your boobs" is something I'll get for sure. lol I like your response and will probably use it. Thank you!

[nikkie]

Just do it. They can't really tell you not to.

Very true. lol

[nikkie]

My mom walked in on me putting mine on once. She didn't say anything about it, as far as I recall.
Eventually, while out, she asked me, "Doesn't that hurt?" And I knew exactly what she was talking about, I said no.
That's about all that was ever said... But my mom always knew I wasn't feminine, so it probably wasn't a surprise that I didn't want breast.

I'm kind of worried about this since most of the doors in our house don't close/lock. If it happens it happens but people in my house only barge into my room since it's the laundry room also. Thank you for sharing!

[Kyler]

I'm kind of worried about this since most of the doors in our house don't close/lock. If it happens it happens but people in my house only barge into my room since it's the laundry room also. Thank you for sharing!

Change standing against the door... That's what I do all the time, out of paranoia.

[conformer]

Change standing against the door... That's what I do all the time, out of paranoia.

Same here. When I lived in a dorm I wouldn't feel like locking the door sometimes and a few blue moons someone would barge in. They would see my back and be say "oops sorry" or whatever and just come back in a minute.