Conflict between being read as your gender and personal expression?

[solexander]

This doesn't happen super often to me anymore now that I'm on testosterone, if at all, but I had a really hard time with this early on in transition and wanted to see if anyone else had something similar.
I used to have it happen where, just by being myself and trying to retain who I was throughout transition, I had a hard time being read as male at times. Like, I've always loved dying my hair, but now dying my hair made people more likely to read me as female. Another thing that became an issue: I'm a huge animal lover, and get really excited when I see dogs in public. I'd slip up on trying to deepen my voice and being cool and collected and just "HEY CAN I PET YOUR DOG WHAT'S YOUR DOG'S NAME WHAT KIND OF DOG IS THAT SHE'S SO CUTE WOW I HAVE THREE DOGS DOGS ARE GREAT" all over everyone, aaaaand I'd get read as female. Anyone else ever have any conflicting issues between just acting the way you do as a person and being read correctly?

[suzifrommd]

Anyone else ever have any conflicting issues between just acting the way you do as a person and being read correctly?

Well I transitioned MtF, and I've definitely seen it work in reverse. I get into this mode where I'm speaking authoritatively on some subject and I definitely feel myself in a male sort of stance.

It makes me uncomfortable, though I'm not so concerned about being read, since nearly everyone in my life knows my history.

[StevieAK]

In my career...I put on a big leather belt and climb poles, work electricity hot. I've long curly hair and some pretty great cleavage,  I smell great, I have cute jeans on but.. .women aren't supposed to be able to do what I can, are they? When men watch me thy think I'm bad ass...I don't want that.