Assumptions of being a "lesbian"

[Maleth]

My experience is pretty close to this. I travel a lot and I find that in any locale where there's a large gay/lesbian presence, I'm more likely to be read as a butch female. Which usually means larger cities and/or more "liberal" states. And, unfortunately, LGBT events. Especially if I'm out and about with a female partner (vs. a male partner).

In more rural locales or places with fewer visible gay/lesbian people I'm generally read as a guy. Even when I'm with a male partner. Which can sometimes be dangerous, but so it goes.

That's funny because it tends to be the way opposite for me. I'm overseas in a conservative country on vacation and I barely pass at all. I've only passed once in the whole month+ I've been here. Meanwhile, I live in a liberal state/city at home and I pass with no problem. Here on vacation I didn't even have to open my mouth and a woman "ma'am"ed me from behind.. it's a little irritating but seeing I'm pre-everything and not out to many, I'm gonna have to get used to this. *shrug*