wanting to be a woman in a relationship?

[kg85621]

I have posted here many times looking for answers. I always get great help. I know i should see a therapist with my questions but it help to start here.

After all the help I have received I am still 100% lost. Recently I have been paying attention to Male female couples. The way they interact in public. How the man is tall strong and protecting. Then I see the love in their eyes with each other. I see them and get jealous of the girl. I want to be that girl. Watching romance movies and I wish I had what the lead woman has. I wanted to be treated like a lady in the relation ship and in the public. Is this enough to say hey maybe I should see further help?

[mrs izzy]

It can happen

It has happened to many of us.

Its something you have to go after just like any relationship in life.

[stephaniec]

just remember everyone is looking for someone

[Jane's Sweet Refrain]

When you ask if you need further help based upon fantasizing about being a woman in a relationship, I hope by 'help' you don't mean curing (and I don't think you do). There's nothing wrong with this cross-gender fantasy, and it's probably one that many people have who would never consider transitioning to female (although it's probably familiar to many of us who have). If you're saying that such a fantasy introduces questions of identity and asking if you should seek help from a therapist who specializes in gender, then the answer is absolutely. Especially if you are experiencing any kinds of distress. Male, female, trans, non-binary--there can be nothing wrong with the you that you discover with the help of a good therapist. If you can't find a specialist where you live, any good therapist will listen and should research to help the best she or he can.

Best wishes

[LizMarie]

I concur. Seek therapy. The extent and proper treatment of whatever is bothering you is not something to leave to your own devices. The vast majority of us mess these things up when we try to go it alone so the odds are not in your favor without seeking help. You won't know what's driving this or whether it relates to GID or even how to address it by flying solo.

[Jess42]

Just keep in mind the difference between fantasy and real life. You see these people in the world but there are arguments, fights, and a whole lot of other negative things to go with a relationship, but the positive usually outweighs the bad. there are perfect relationships and there are people that are perfect for one another, but there is not the ultimately perfect relationship. If you look for that, all you will find is dissapointment.

And yes, you should see a therapist to work through all of it.