How do you know if you're pretty?

[Lady_Oracle]

A character in Xena: Warrior Princess. Xena being my role model, and Gabrielle being the woman I want. I'm weird. That being said Callisto was a great character and also good looking.

ohhh I feel silly for not knowing this. I think I need to go back and watch Xena all over again. Not weird at all!  I had a huge crush on Gabrielle

[Jess42]

I'm always nice to people but that doesn't mean I don't think mean things sometimes

This, Melanie made me laugh. We all think mean things. The person that cuts you off in traffic and then flips you off when you honk your horn. The person that treats you rudely like you are putting them through some type of hell asking for help at a store. God how many people I shoot in the butt with a bb gun in my imagination. But how you react to it is generally what I meant. So the one that cuts me off and then flips me the bird, I don't chase down and want to cuss out. The rude clerk, well I really don't know how bad of a day this person had or what kind of problems in their personal life and I don't want to add to their possible bad time by being rude back. They still get the imaginary BB in the butt though. It's all how you react back to these situations at a face to face situation. Not what you think. Do you know what I mean?

[melanie maritz]

Yes, I get what you mean and I see why that made you laugh :p .

It's just that sometimes I feel like I am a bitter person and I don't want to be.  bitter about bullying I went through in high school and bitter about being a transexual in general. It's only sometimes though, it's getting better

[Jess42]

Yes, I get what you mean and I see why that made you laugh :p .

It's just that sometimes I feel like I am a bitter person and I don't want to be.  bitter about bullying I went through in high school and bitter about being a transexual in general. It's only sometimes though, it's getting better

You're not the only one that has that little bit of bitterness. I didn't get bullied but had very few real friends, everyone else it was just what I could do for them and so on. But about the trans part, most definitely. But that definitely doesn't make you a bad person or ugly inside. If anything use it to have empathy for others that are facing the same thing and try to help them. Does that make sense?

[Hayley]

Honestly I never really feel pretty. Its part of the reason I look to strangers on the interwebz for validation. Most of the time though I don't care, I'm happy. I'm loved and that matters more to me than anything anyone will say about how I look. But somedays I love hearing nice thing ls about how I look. I will say that I believe you girls here are lovely.

[Wild Flower]

It's not about being pretty. It's about being attractive. Two different things.

Not everyone can be pretty. You just have to look in the mirror, and find what you can become. 

Anyone can be beautiful except the very ugly. Marilyn Monroe, Madonna, are not beautiful, but through hard work they could become beautiful.

[Hikari]

Hmm, I just returned from clothes shopping, and everyone was very positive and jealous of my legs....I dunno sometimes I wonder, I mean I understand why my friends would give me total compliments, but why would strangers? I mean with nothing to gain perhaps, that is the way to know how pretty or not you are, to hear total strangers say it?

[innainka]

I am always fashionably late...

As to the pretty/attractive subject, if you get slew of the sexually toned gazes from the guys, get approached when at the club with multitude of short stupid yet somewhat empowering statements about being attractive to their T driven desires, or see the grown man behave like little boys trying to master enough courage to approach you and say some of the lines I have mentioned before....You probably are pretty.
Now, if you work with multitude of people and female customers do tell you how pretty you are, then even more so, you are probably very pretty.
And even then, even though the feeling is extremely pleasant and reassuring, even then, you your self do find what is wrong with your look, and you keep on looking for improvements.

I know of some famous models, whose success had proven that they should believe without a single doubt that they are in fact gorgeous, yet reality proves otherwise and leaves them wondering just the same.

I guess, the uncertainty is just a part of being a real woman.....