We must be selfish, i.e., look out for our own interests and needs. There are many who still believe stuff such as, 'through the power of God/Christ, you can break this disgusting condition and live a normal life'...
I found in grade and high school that I often did not get relief from bullying until I fought back and bloodied several noses and blackened a few eyes. I never changed their feelings toward me, but they knew to keep it to themselves, and passed that wisdom on to others who would 'teach me the error of my ways' or 'make a real man out of me'...
Damn right, we are selfish...
Karen