Do cis men or cis women treat and respect you better?

[JulieB]

Just curious; I haven't come out yet, so I want to know what to expect 

[Ms Grace]

Respect is a two way street. Within my work place and friend groups I would say there is no difference because I was already treated with respect, and I treated them with respect and continue to do so. If I had been the office douchebag then no amount of transition would have made them suddenly respect me more. Mind you, most of the people I know and work with are open minded and mature people - if instead they were the douchebags I don't think I'd be expecting much respect. As for people who didn't know me before transition, maybe women are a bit more relaxed around me than when I was in guy mode, but that's not a respect or a trans thing.

[Beverly]

Just curious; I haven't come out yet, so I want to know what to expect 

In my experience, respect from others depends on how you conduct yourself. Act in an adult, mannerly fashion and people respond to it. Act like a pubescent brat and they react to tgat too, but in a different way.

[Tori]

Like the others have said, respect does not tend to have anything to do with transition.

I do notice women treating me differently, like I have joined the club.

[Cindy]

Again I will agree with the others. Respect is earned and the way it is earned by respecting others.

[Megumi]

The majority of people treat me with dignity and respect. What surprised me were the people at work. I work in a factory with 1400 people in the DDDDEEEEEEEEEEPPPP bible belt south and nearly every single person knows about me being transgender. Most people are nice to me and will say hi as we walk by in the halls. A small amount are being quite childish and being passive aggressive by never answering me when I talk to them. Only a couple have been stupid enough to call me a derogatory term, HR dealt with them rather quickly as any kind of harassment is not allowed whether you are cis-gender, transgender, gender queer or name your binary & sexual orientation.

I have seen that the women are generally more welcoming of me and guys have a harder time and that could be that they are afraid that their own masculinity will be threatened if they are nice or talk to me. But I'm one of the girls now and am treated as such and it feels great 

[lemon_ice]

In my experience so far, women are generally more comfortable with the whole thing, some to the point of almost ecstatic excitement lol. As the others have mentioned above, for those who already know you respect is based mostly on your conduct and manners etc., so that shouldn't really change too much for most when you come out.., but even in this group I've found women seem to be the most comfortable with the situation in general. As for those who don't know you but end up knowing for one reason or another, the reactions seem to be a bit more polarised, again women seem to be the most ok with it in my experience.
I had a really nice experience telling one girl today, it was a workplace situation but we work for different companies, we've never spoken before and she recently started working in a similar area to me, so I thought I'd better let her know why I use the same bathroom as her etc.. when I told her she almost immediately hi-fived me (lol) and was ridiculously excited about it, we had a great chat, a big hug and we're now friends lol.. I wish it went like that every time!

Disclaimer: I haven't come out to lots of people yet as I'm working away from most friends and family at the moment.. I will be coming out to them as soon I go back, I won't have a choice, the changes are getting so obvious now.. Anyway, so my sample size is still limited,  like only a dozen or so people so far.

[Tori]

Women are often proud that you get IT.

Men don't often get it.

Being a girl is a culture.

[Beverly]

Being a girl is a culture.

So is being a bloke, but I never understood it. I did not like what I did understand.

[Sammy]

I have not come out to most of people at my workplace (only my closest colleagues and superiors - female only). They were very ok with that, even one girl who was kinda conservative in her views, but we turned out be become almost best friends afterwards. As far as the rest of staff is concerned, they dont know, but they are very friendly. Women are even more friendly than they used to be - we just pause and chat in the hallways about various topics and just laught about general stuff with or without any reason. When I was a guy, women never touched me during conversation (You know that light touch on Your elbow or arm), now it does happen from time to time. It seems, for some reason, they are at ease with me - maybe it is just the personality, when You are open and smiling, people are at ease whoever You are (and when a stone-faced guy joins the conversation, there is always that sudden unspoken moment of slight tension before we re-adjust our topics and behaviour - kinda getting more serious and less emotional).

[Foxglove]

I live in a small, laid-back town, and I don't think anybody treats me with any less respect than before.  This would include the men as well.  I haven't had any problems with them.

One exception is certain (generally older) women who are very friendly towards me.  I've been trying to come up with a name for them.  I'm tentatively calling them "the Welcoming Committee".  Of course I can't know exactly what's going on in their minds and hearts.  I don't know that I can go so far as to say they actually like ->-bleeped-<-.  But it's clear that they're extremely accepting of t-girls.  I get the impression they find it nice that someone should renounce masculinity and embrace femininity.

The only disadvantage I've encountered is that men don't seem to be interested in discussing fingernails, lipstick, perfume, skirts and things like that, but you can't have everything in life.