the point of no return

[Zoe Louise Taylor]

I feel that recently ive realised that ive reached a point in which I cant go back to living as a male!

I feel ive made a life for myself as a girl, and im now so content that the thought of going back is unthinkable!! This is the first time ive ever felt this way!! I just feel now that I have to push on with my transition and the next step is now to get a job and then I can be zoe 24/7!!!

Have any of you reached a point in which you felt that going back wasnt an option? At which point in your transition did that occur?

For me i feel that now ive achieved some social acceptence and I have freinds who know me as zoe and see me as a woman, ive just realised how much more comfortable I am as a woman! There is now no going back for me, and thats such a good feeling

Xx

[Jessica Merriman]

Have any of you reached a point in which you felt that going back wasnt an option!! At which point in your transition did that occur?

Oh most definitely!! 6 months after I went full time I would actually have moments I forgot I was trans. There is now no way in heck I would go back to who I was before. I am serious. I would turn down money, vacation homes or anything else thrown at me to stay this way. I can't even conceive how I would live as before. Too horrible to even contemplate. 

[Jill F]

It was pretty much all over for me as soon as I was more comfortable going out in women's attire than I was in men's, so I stopped wearing those things altogether.

[Ms Grace]

There's no going back for me now. I'm closing in on five months being full time and I expect at the six month mark, like Jessica, it will be a cemented in reality for me. I do have a job so that helps with the daily routine and interaction and, once you've secured work for yourself, it really helps immerse yourself in your gender identity.

[Zoe Louise Taylor]

There's no going back for me now. I'm closing in on five months being full time and I expect at the six month mark, like Jessica, it will be a cemented in reality for me. I do have a job so that helps with the daily routine and interaction and, once you've secured work for yourself, it really helps immerse yourself in your gender identity.

yea getting a job in which I can be zoe is the next big step for me I think after living part time for 9 months, it will be so amazing to be in a position where I can be zoe 24/7 x

[suzifrommd]

Have any of you reached a point in which you felt that going back wasnt an option? At which point in your transition did that occur?

I joined an all-women feminist reading group shortly after I started going out as Suzi (don't worry, they were trans-inclusive and welcomed me with perfect decorum). Every time I left the sisterhood of that all-female space and was forced to return to my male existence, I realized I could never be happy remaining male.

[Juliett]

In the big picture sense, my point of no return was the moment I finally accepted myself after a decade of running from it. I decided that I had nothing left to lose and it was time to see where it would take me.

In the more practical sense, I often have a laugh imagining what it would take to pass as male.
I would have to hide my hair under a big cowboy hat.
I would have to buy a big cowboy hat.
I would have to bind my chest and wear big baggy shirts.
I would have to trade my Prius for a big penis truck.

After all that, my voice would still give me away. Every time I try to lower my voice into the male range, I collapse into giggles after 2 seconds and always feel like Austin Powers saying "how does that feel baby"

[Jill F]

In the big picture sense, my point of no return was the moment I finally accepted myself after a decade of running from it. I decided that I had nothing left to lose and it was time to see where it would take me.

In the more practical sense, I often have a laugh imagining what it would take to pass as male.
I would have to hide my hair under a big cowboy hat.
I would have to buy a big cowboy hat.
I would have to bind my chest and wear big baggy shirts.
I would have to trade my Prius for a big penis truck.

After all that, my voice would still give me away. Every time I try to lower my voice into the male range, I collapse into giggles after 2 seconds and always feel like Austin Powers saying "how does that feel baby"

OK, I just spewed sparkling water all over my monitor.

From my wife's observation, the bigger the truck, the smaller the junk.  I always thought a perfect vanity plate for a jacked-up monster truck would read "CMPNS8R".

[Northern Jane]

Oh goodness! I started living part time enfemme at age 14 and was still part time until SRS at 24. The "point of no return" would have been when I found out surgery was POSSIBLE, about age 14 when I heard of Christine Jorgensen.

[Kira Phoenix]

I started on hormone replacement therapy in March 2013. My "point of no return" started in November of 2013 after I became incapable of passing as male. I started getting called "ma'am" at the grocery store so that's when I started living full time

[Jenna Marie]

It really is such a good feeling - so glad for you that you got there!

For me it was about 4 months on HRT (and 11 months since I started transition), and it was in fact the moment I considered my transition effectively finished. That was when I came out at work.

[Rose City Rose]

The point of no return for me probably came when I started getting consistently gendered correctly, only about 2 months ago.

In hindsight though, I think from the moment I began therapy in earnest I was already too far gone to consider turning back, even if I balked at moving forward sometimes.

I can't go back to living as a man now.  I would rather undergo some kind of barbaric execution, like being devoured by lions or burned at the stake, than to try to be male again.

[Jill F]

I can't go back to living as a man now.  I would rather undergo some kind of barbaric execution, like being devoured by lions or burned at the stake, than to try to be male again.

You got that one right, sis!   We'll just say being a guy wasn't for me in the slightest.  It's such a relief to know that I couldn't ever go back now no matter what. 

[stephaniec]

well, about 6 months in I got sick from the flu and told my therapist I was quitting because I was at the stage I need surgery to get rid of my breasts, My therapist had me think about it and realized it be a bigger mistake to quit.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

Have any of you reached a point in which you felt that going back wasn't an option? At which point in your transition did that occur?

Once I popped my first HRT meds.

[mrs izzy]

My moment was the day I moved south to move into my new apartment and start Monday as Isabell. It was then I never would ever go back to the pain of hiding my true self again.

[Just Shelly]

During my first year and a half or so I did feel like as if this was some sort of an experiment at times. After being totally accepted as a woman and accepting it myself! I never have this thought! There are actually times that I feel unfortunate being a woman, this comes from being treated like I am so stupid, but it doesn't lead me to wishing I was a man again. Its more the same feeling many woman get, and that is to just ignore the bs and move forward.

As far as portraying a man again.....it wouldn't be that hard. I don't care how passable a trans is, anyone including cis woman could pull off being a man. Just look at some of the hunky FTM brothers. Some of them started where I would love to finish. Just stop the HRT and things would change. Ya I may look a little more feminine, but because I once had that T running through my body it wouldn't be that difficult to assimilate "him" again.  But why the hell would I want too!!

[Miss_Bungle1991]

Ya I may look a little more feminine, but because I once had that T running through my body it wouldn't be that difficult to assimilate "him" again. 

Well, in my case, there would be very little T being put out compared to before. Kind of hard to go back to the same level when you lack testicles.

[antonia]

For me the point where I knew there was no going back was when I learned that my body was never able to produce reproductive genetic material, just put everything into perspective and I realized I was never meant to live life as a man.

[Cindy]

Interesting. When was the point? I slowly, deliberately and methodically destroyed every single bridge that I could use to go back to him.

I think in retrospect it was when I decided to do that.

There is nothing and no one to go back too.