What is the first thing people ask?

[Maleth]

Not out to anyone, but I usually hear people staring me down and trying to figure out whether I'm a boy or a girl or some people even whisper amongst themselves while pointing to me.

I'm stealth, so no one asks anything because they don't know.

So lucky.. I hope to be stealth one day..

[ryanjoseph]

"So are you gay?"

[anibioman]

I met my endo's resident the other day. I was the first FTM she had ever met. her first comment was "oh wow I would have never guessed." She complemented my masculinity and my voice. She also eluded to the fact that she thinks I'm attractive.

[BrotherBen]

On dating apps, the most common question is "So do you have a *slang term for front hole*?" followed by "Can I lick it/have sex with it/etc?" For people I meet in person, it's usually "So have you had The Surgery? Are you going to?"

[GnomeKid]

probably "Wait... What?"  or "Really?"

[BeefxCake]

depends on the person

people i've known a while:

1. "do your parents support you?"

2. " well thats cool, long as your happy."

people im either acquainted with or barely know

1. " how do you know you're a guy?"

2. " does your family know?"

3. " but you were so pretty."


I can't say i've had a horrible experience yet with my being trans. i've been really lucky tbh. my parents are totally on board with it. and none of my friends mind. im in college and it's a really accepting atmosphere.

like you want to say AZ is a republican conservative place when really it's pretty damn accepting, i've yet to run into these conservative people speak of.

[ReubenIsTheName]

"Really?? Does your mom know?"
"So, how does...that surgery work? Will it look just like a 'real one'?"
"Gah! Why would you get your boobs cut off?! That'd hurt!!"
"Why do you 'want to be a boy'??"

Or, I'll show them another FTM that's had top surgery, etc, and they say "So 'that' (or 'they') are/was a girl?"

It goes on, but it always stems to how the surgery is gonna work. The improper pronouns and 'want to be a boy' thing get to me most. I AM a young man. 

[Frank]

Due to unique circumstances, by the time I moved here, I was already well into presenting male and pass just fine so I have the good fortune to not have to deal with stupid questions.

Most of the handful of family that I've told are not surprised, and the males just went right into proper pronouns. It was kind of weird actually...the females are having a huge problem with that though. They insist they just need more time, but I'm like, the men had zero problems switching and they've been here just as long as you so...

[Felix]

"Which bathroom do you use?"
"How did you have a baby?"
bonus followup from some idiots -
"Does her mom know?"

My least favorite, which thankfully I haven't heard in a long time -
"What was your name before?"

People most of the time now either express disbelief or just take it in stride and accept the information as if I had told them what neighborhood I live in or that I wear glasses.

[ajtrans]

so u have both parts? ..

[ajtrans]

so u have both parts?  how big is it? so u had THE sergery? can I see it? how do u have sex? how can u b a boy wen ura girl?

my old so calld friends wen they found my packer laughed n said wtf u do w this u stick it inside u? I explained n they said so I was rite u stick it inside u?

[Taka]

i think these questions need some smart answers.
i've only run into odd questions on the internet, because i'm not really out irl yet. standard answer to "are you a boy or a girl?" would be "yes".

[lilthumper]

Having kids or getting married?

[bambam]

"What do they make the penis out of?"

I always get a private part question first. Except from a few people but the majority ask the first thing. Ugh.

[Amathy]

I've been very fortunate.  Most of the people who knew me before the transition, when I come out as trans, simply ask what I prefer to be called.  Nobody seemed very surprised but I was slowly transitioing physically for months before I started coming out.  So far no innapropriate questions.  Very thankful of all the supportive people around me.

[Bombadil]

"So, you're not going to go all the way right? I mean.... you are not going to use the men's bathroom are you?"

[pianoforte]

"So... what exactly is a transgender?"

[Edge]

Tempting...

[pianoforte]

Edge, that is beautiful

[Blue Senpai]

"So... what exactly is a transgender?"

That's probably a honest question, most people just don't know.