cheerleading can be a little bit problematic. i think it's mostly about how advice is given.
advice that is presented as founded on a person's or that person's acquaintance's experience, can be helpful, even if it's not the right solution for the person who reads the advice.
advice without funding, solutions presented as the right thing to do, comments about what causes what or what a person should add or remove to their life, with no basis in the person's own experience, just won't help. it can be maddening, triggering, depressing, exhausting.
i have found my own answer to what i want, what i'm willing to sacrifice, how i want things to be in my life. for me it's easy to just skip all the irrelevant things that people might say without fully knowing my situation. or i can tell them why it won't work. but for people who are still looking for their solution, the best plan towards happiness, it can be damaging when others draw too quick conclusions and give advice without also presenting how they got to that conclusion, or why they think that solution might work.
cheering people on is good, but it's best not to do it before knowing whether they are moving in the right direction.
i'd just have a good laugh if someone told me i don't need any ffs when they saw my picture. i'd laugh even harder if they said i could use some here or there. but that's because i know it's the wrong solution, and can even easily explain why. i'm not insecure about how i look, and not asking for advice about that either. in other matters, like relationship and alternative ways of transitioning or expressing gender, it can get a whole lot more complicated, and mixing up things and giving advice about the wrong points will only make things more difficult for the person asking. rather than saying "there's your problem", ask if the person didn't say so themselves.
