Rejecting a Pretty Girl

[Wild Flower]

I felt somewhat bad today that a pretty girl told me AT WORK said I was cute, but all I said to her was "thanks". I didn't want to lead her on, nor had any interest in her, but then I thought I must had hurt her feelings because I should had say "you're pretty, but I want to be a professional" or something in those lines. Her friend then said, "she's looking for a boyfriend why don't you get her number", and I responded, "I am leaving this state in 4 weeks from now"..

I am also not use to that situation because a girl never come up to me and tell me I was cute before. It meant a lot, but I just don't know how to respond to that. She told a few people too what she thought about me. I just don't want to hurt her feelings, but I also don't want to risk my career in doing something that I shouldn't had done.

[Jessica Merriman]

Don't feel bad sweetie! When I first went full time I was not used to being complimented at all about my appearance. I have learned to respond appropriately now about 5 months into it. Now when people comment on my nails, hair, clothing, etc. I respond naturally without thinking about it. I must have seemed very rude at first, but now know it is just a part of learning my new life.

You sound like you were never given these comments as well, so your hesitance and perceived coldness are normal. Now that you have been complimented once you might work on responses to any future comments. If you run into her again you might apologize and say something along the lines of you were deep in though over some issue and her comment caught you out of the blue. I am sure she will understand. 

[Wild Flower]

Don't feel bad sweetie! When I first went full time I was not used to being complimented at all about my appearance. I have learned to respond appropriately now about 5 months into it. Now when people comment on my nails, hair, clothing, etc. I respond naturally without thinking about it. I must have seemed very rude at first, but now know it is just a part of learning my new life.

You sound like you were never given these comments as well, so your hesitance and perceived coldness are normal. Now that you have been complimented once you might work on responses to any future comments. If you run into her again you might apologize and say something along the lines of you were deep in though over some issue and her comment caught you out of the blue. I am sure she will understand. 

Oh, I see what you mean, but she complemented me in my guy mode (only mode right now;;; but it's more like Barbie's Ken; tan skin, brown hair). Her friend knows she wants me to ask her out, but I just don't know how to do that nor do I want too either. It's not in me.

[Jessica Merriman]

Oh, I see what you mean, but she complemented me in my guy mode

I know. I was just letting you know I understood even if it was from the opposite side. If you know her friend you might tell her to talk to her friend and let her know you are not available. It might be easier that way since you will not be face to face and someone ends up feeling rejected.