Talked about at work behind your back.

[CrissyMarie]

So..I have been working at my current job now for about 2 months, and when I was hired on everyone saw me as Chris, and I presented myself that way.  Now after 2 months almost every co-worker I have are talking about me, calling me "twinkle toes" or girl.  I'm not sure how to take it because yea, hiding who I am has become a pain in the butt.  I go to work with no makeup, guys shirt and try to act like the old me.  I refuse to wear guys pants or shoes.  So when I talk to them and then walk away, lets say the bathroom.  I look in the mirror at myself and say "damn.. I am having such a malefail".  Because in the mirror I see a girl wearing what would appear as my boyfriends shirt and nice fit girls jeans.  You get the idea.  So ya, I'm sick and tired of it and I called my last company and was telling them I will probably come back.  But informed them this time, that I'm transitioning and to see if they will be alright with that.  They told me of course they would and that there was already like 3 other people who were trans that worked for the company.  So I just smiled and said that's good to know because I will be coming to work as a female.  If they can't tolerate that then I'm not going to work there.  So, looks like I might be in the clear with finally having a job I can transition at.

[stephaniec]

its sad that there are way too many jerks in the world

[ChrisTinaBruce]

We do take the road less traveled, but remember all the wonderful things we get to see and do.  The last 5 years have been the most challenging and most rewarding of my 45 years and I would not change a thing.

Embrase it, own it and Never let them know it bothers you.

Be Bold, Be Proud, Be Yourself
Chris Tina Bruce

[Ms Grace]

Based on your avatar I can see how you would have reached male fail.

Sadly, people with nothing better to do love to talk about other people, the larger the workplace the worse it can be.

[Jill F]

Sounds like a hostile work environment to me.   Your co-workers should be catching hell from HR over this at a bare minimum.  If this continues, you might want to lawyer up.

[Newgirl Dani]

Insecurity and the inability to have enough strength of character to be their own person will always present itself in this way.  Whether it be a trans person or any other person who has the strength to be themselves for whatever reason will put thier inadequacy in the spotlight, so the weaker route is to look elsewhere.  Dani

[CrissyMarie]

Sounds like a hostile work environment to me.   Your co-workers should be catching hell from HR over this at a bare minimum.  If this continues, you might want to lawyer up.

It's a little depressing now not even wanting to talk or get near my co-workers for fear of being descriminated against.  It's why I am probably going to get my job today.  Because I just feel like crying before I go to work.  I don't want to cause a fuss or get anybody in trouble.  That's why I haven't said anything.  Because I have not told anybody at work, so technically I have not outed myself yet.  But there are tons of things being talked about behind my back, the glances I get.  One employee said "he's taking girl hormones" and said I was "he's a girl" I don't know names of those who said what, just that basically everyone is talking but maybe a few in the office who don't associate with the people outside as I have a semi masculine job.  I'm a local truck driver in Georgia.

But I think today will be my last and go back to doing regional driving for my last job until I get into a more fitting job.  Possibly run a food truck with my brother or go back to being an EMT.