Should I even 'come out'?

[Lostkitten]

This might ring a bell for many by reading the title. Don't get me wrong D:! I am already starting with hormone therapy really soon. I wear clothes I like and on the street many people already adress me as a woman. I like it and find it funny when kids walk up to me being their rude like selfes; .. .. eh, what are you?

The thing is I never really thought so much about 'coming out'. I told my family and close friends and they know what is coming. Or what is more to come. Whenever I am at birthday parties I can see question marks in people their eyes and maybe some already made assumptions.

I don't think it is a private thing. Everyone around me will notice the change so saying to myself and everyone else it is non of their business, is a little bit funny. If they can see it, it kind of is. But should I just make the changes more and more visible till it becomes natural and obvious? Or I was thinking on uploading something on Facebook for the typical 'coming out' message.

What would you advice ? Or what are your thoughts about it?

[androgynouspainter26]

There are pros and cons to both-while it's very important to tell you loved ones, you are absolutely right, it is nobody else's business! 

I choose not to come out at all to those who weren't close to me; I changed my name on facebook as soon as I went full time and answered people's questions as they came in.  Obviously, this means that people who don't NEED to know won't know-they'll see the name and usually won't think anything of it. 

A sometimes wish I had taken the other option-I have friends who did come out very publicly, and the outpouring of support they received was incredible. 

It's really up to you, whatever you think suits you and your circle of friends best. 

[ImagineKate]

I have trans friends and they never told me they were. One talks with her low voice so I assume she knows I know.

I don't care. Good friends, good times. Intelligent, wonderful people I have no problem being friends with. One is a professor and she is a really wonderful person.

And having trans friends is a plus because I am hoping I can talk to them about my own transition and they can give me encouragement and support, because they've been through it.