My grandmother finally accepted me as male. YYYYEEEESSSSSSSS!
9 years and my mom would not let me tell my grandmother I'm trans. 9 freaking years. And now I suspect that all of my mother's reasons are BS. I think she flat out lied to me by saying that my grandmother didn't want to know. I think she was just trying to cover her own a** because she was afraid of the consequences it would have on her. I had to endure being called by a name I can't stand and being refereed to with female pronouns every Christmas until one year I couldn't stand it anymore, and I stopped going. And it was so so so obvious I was on T. But my mother is no longer in the position to make that sort decision. And I don't know how the topic came up, but my dad told my grandmother and my uncle earlier this year (this is his side of the family I am talking about btw).
A couple of months ago my grandmother ended up in the hospital, and for a while, we didn't know if she would make it. I tried to arrange a way to get my dad up there to visit her because he is having such a hard time with my mom, his car broke down, and then my grandmother got sick. He needed something to go his way. And on Saturday schedules finally lined up perfectly, and we got to see my grandmother. She's doing much better, and she's even talking about next Christmas. When we first walked in she called me Kyle, and she introduced me to her nurse as her grandson. She told me I was getting buff and that I looked good. This is so weird. I never thought she would accept me as male because she has very strong ideas on what a man should be and what a woman should be.
Now I wonder if I should have just taken it upon myself when I first started transitioning to tell my dad's side of the family. My relationship with my grandmother, even though never really that great because I refused to conform to her ideals of femininity, fell apart because I was not allowed to tell her. And because I decided it was not worth the depression sit through a day's worth of female pronouns and a name I hate.
