gendered hobbies is a weird invention. knitting and sewing are now "female" hobbies, but both were once jobs that more men did. cooking is the wife's job, but only for the short time after childbirth when she is at home at just the right time to make the food before the whole rest of the family come home from school or work. in all other cases, it seems like a rule that men are generally better at cooking. just look at who win those big competitions.
it's typically male to be a mechanic, but in some villages up north in norway, it's just the easiest education to take, and thus clustered with girls who don't fancy going to university just to get an ok job. and pretty much all the girls in my little brother's military camp are there as mechanics.
all toddlers prefer pink, boys only start disliking it when they learn there's a difference between girls and boys, and pink is somethink that identifies you as a girl. this is also the same time when girls start wearing only pink, at their own choice. my daughter didn't like mustard in school because all the other kids think it is yucky. she normally prefers that over ketchup at home.
gendered and other behavior is mostly learned from other (older) kids, and most don't even think about how, or even that this is happening. i wonder if the world would look different, if adult did nothing at all to encourage this behavior, and instead kept twlling the little kids that girl and boys can do exactly the same things. and that the only difference is that girls will grow boobs when they grow up, but that can be stopped with medicines for thoae who don't want it, and boys can get medicines to grow boobs when they're old enough to drive a car.
nobody ever tells kids those things though, so how will we ever manage to break down socially construed gender barriers. some "gendered" behaviors are probably natural and in either the genes or the hormones, but i don't think those have much to do with likes, dislikes, or hobbies.
