Nonbinary- what questions did you have when you first came to Susans?

[Satinjoy]

Triggered by a suggestion from Ativan.  For our Newbies, for the good of trans.

What questions did you ask or did you wish you had asked when you first came to Susans for help?

Nails out....

[Jess42]

How to open up during therapy. It still took the better part of a year to blurt it out though.

[suzifrommd]

I asked a lot of questions.

Most of them had to do with living and presenting as a non-binary. How do I show the world that I'm non-binary in a way that they don't just think I'm a nut job? If someone asks why my fingernails are long, or something else about my presentation, how can I explain in a sentence or two what it is to be non-binary?

I never got a good answer to these. I ended up concluding that there is no way that I could present non-binary and not be looked upon as "strange" or "different". It would make it much harder to fit in socially.

[Mark3]

As a newbie still, but happily I won't say that much longer cuz I'm getting to know people here fairly well now, I didn't ask anything here initially, but just wanted to support and be an allie for everyone..?

What I didn't know was how much I would learn from everyone, and learn about myself especially... I think I came here kinda hiding behind a CIS guy label more than I should have, but its how I've always id'd myself, even though when I take those silly Fb quizes like "what's your true brains gender", I always get 50-91% female(I just did one this morning)..? Well that just opens a can of worms I'm not willing to dive into at this late stage in my life....?

But to get back on topic..? (What was the question).?? 

[Cin]

Is it possible for non-binary/androgynes to get HRT so that their body can better match their identity was my first question when I cam here. In other words transitioning between gender extremes.

[Shantel]

Is it possible for non-binary/androgynes to get HRT so that their body can better match their identity was my first question when I cam here. In other words transitioning between gender extremes.

Yes, many of us have.

[Cin]

Yes, many of us have.

I didn't know until I decided to click on this section of the forum

[luna nyan]

I didn't actually ask many questions, I answered one on electro as my first post.

I hopped on Susans as a lurker first, read about low dose, and joined a short time before I had my first endo appointment.

Then again, I had mostly sorted myself out a long time before coming here.

[helen2010]

SJ

I had lots of questions, and once I started, they just kept coming:

- recovery and results from ffs
- physical change from hrt
- had others found the dysphoria just stopped after hrt
- had others found hrt was feminising their body too quickly
- were others over the whole dressing to 'pass' gender performance
- was there really an andro gender and how could I explore and achieve this possibility
- who were the best endos and therapists in my area
- how did folk share, how much did they share, what did they share, with their SO and with others
- hair removal advice and experience
- support groups or folk wishing to talk or meet up locally
- was there a single reason for being trans* - social, psychological or biological
- a need to better understand myself and other folk and our identities
- timelines
- could hrt be kept at low dose and flexed with an endo to achieve an optimal result
- how could I help others avoid the years of stress that I had suffered
- how could I help others understand the NB experience
- why did non binarism sometimes cause such discomfort and occasionally aggression among binary folk
- how could I become fully authentic, self expressed and present
- who was I when I when I moved from tree to tree, glade to glade, and stream to stream in the Unicorn Forest
- what stroke of good fortune had brought me to Susans and had me find myself, so many fellow travellers, kindred spirits and soul mates

Safe travels

Aisla

[Taka]

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,99699.msg739029.html#msg739029

ativan's answer, which can only be seen quoted one post below, really changed my outlook on pretty much everything.
there was more text to it though, which was unfortunately lost, but also contributed to my enlightenment.

[Satinjoy]

Mine:

Is transition inevitable?
(No not for us, it all depends)

What am I?
  (Gorgeous. Forget the boxes)

Can l live stealth in the birth gender on hormones?
  (Yes.  But it gets tiring as it goes on, most will want to live free.)

How big will my boobs get?
  (As big as they get....LOL)

How do I find my true gender?
  (In quiet, seeking the core)

Am I crazy?
  (No.)

Is dysphoria progressive?
  (For MTF's, yes.  For NB's, I don't know.)

What is the unicorn forest?
  (Our sanctuary here.)

Those were my first few questions and their answers.

If you posted here, would you mind also answering the questions you provided?  Its all meant for the newbies...to help them out.

--SJ

[ativan]

I had to go look, it would seem that it was, '?'.