See this is what I mean! (kind of a long read) help sisters!

[katiej]

Independence and dealing with your social anxiety should be priority number one.  Yes, getting out on your own will allow you to make decisions apart from your parents.  But that's not the whole reason.  Transition is a lot of work.  It requires planning and execution of a defined strategy. 

I'm making a big assumption here...but I'd say that you are likely still with your parents because of a passive mentality.  You're waiting for things to happen to you.  Your social anxieties are a real issue...I'm not discounting those at all.  But until you take a proactive approach and start to address those issues, you'll never be able to transition. 

I imagine that your parents could even be helpful in that process.  Without bringing up transition, you could ask for help in dealing with your social issues.  Tell them you're wanting to get on your own two feet and become more independent.  I'm sure they'd support that.  Then you can deal with gender issues later.

[Jess42]

A mule <3

OK. I stand corrected and shut my mouth.

[Zumbagirl]

I understand the issues very well. I had to deal with my parents as well. Let's just say that we have not talked for about 20 years now. We are like complete strangers now. It's sad, but it's life. Don't try to second guess how people will react either because generally it will be wrong. Maybe your parents will come around maybe not. If they don't then your options are, no transition until you are capable of supporting yourself, finding a friends basement or something you can live in or just suck it up and don't do anything. On the other hand you might find a welcoming hand or maybe even a partially welcoming hand. If you do, then try doing what you can without losing your support network. You really should discuss this with a therapist though. There is way more than just hormones and such as you are finding out.