Stuff Parents Say

[Polo]

I feel lucky too, Ricky. My mom may occasionally make snarky comments or use the well timed awkward silence, but she never forced me to do anything I didn't want to do. And to be fair, I'm not out to her yet (it's gonna happen in about a week, hopefully it'll go OK) she only mocked me once, and it was about a year ago when I first really started living full time as male (we live in different states).

She also makes some funny half-joking comments, like wishing I could be like Rachel Maddow and also snag a similar career lol

I did come out to my dad, which went really well except he made the comment that he couldn't get used to a new name. Thankfully I'm keeping my already masculine name but I imagine a lot of people get that response which must be frustrating.

[palexander]

this was around spring of last year when i came out to my dad. looking at it still kind of hurts. 





after these he kept calling me my birth name. it's unending with him, even nearly one year later. sigh.

[palexander]

Sorry that it went rough for you..have you started T yet?
Perhaps it would be easier for him to get used to it with some visible changes e.g facial hair or low voice

yeah, i'm nearly 2 weeks on t and my voice is significantly deeper; along with visible facial hair. i think i'm seeing him next month so it'll be a shock to him haha

[LoriLorenz]

My dad told me that he didnt need another doughter.... 

and my mom the next day told me she needs "proof" like a lab report or something of that nature.

OUCH! Who cares what they need? It's your life! BTW you look awesome! Great Profile pic.

[palexander]

Ah jealous man I can't wait to get started, I get a bit carried away on here then realise I havnt even had first appointment yet lol 
Awesome that you got them changes so quick though, its bound to make some kind of difference
Haha always good to have something to look forward to 

haha for sure. i already fully passed; deeper starting voice, hairy, masculine face, etc. it's really exciting!
when do you visit the endo?

[pianoforte]

This really got to me, as I am (sort of) waiting for certain people (my grandmother who is old, my mom who smokes a lot and has generally poor health) to die rather than coming out to them. I can't afford to wait forever. If I choose not to transition it can't be for their benefit and I'll have to find a way to survive it.

It's just so hard dealing with family sometimes x_x

[palexander]

That's not too bad then least it wouldn't of been as massive a shock as it could've been in that case,
Can imagine it is, if its exciting and makes you happier that's ultimately what matters eh
Well I'm in UK and broke so going on NHS, got my psychiatrist appointment at GIC end of this month,
Probably a bunch of assessments for like half a year then I'll probably get the chance to see the endo as I've done all I can do for now.. Gonna be worth the wait though that's for sure.

that's the thing.. my hair has been short since i was 8 and as soon as i could speak i told my mom i did not want to wear dresses anymore. i always played football (american, not soccer:D), basketball, bmx, and so on. the sports i did were not necessarily 'feminine' so to speak; i'm not saying girls can't play them, but i wanted to play sports primarily played by boys. the part that bothers me is he's ignored it my whole life... i actually have two gay brothers, well, one passed but yea. he doesn't know about the other, but again IT IS OBVIOUS...

my girlfriend is british as well! nhs will definitely help get you moving in the right direction we need to stay in contact so you can let me know how your transition goes, i'm excited for you!!

This really got to me, as I am (sort of) waiting for certain people (my grandmother who is old, my mom who smokes a lot and has generally poor health) to die rather than coming out to them. I can't afford to wait forever. If I choose not to transition it can't be for their benefit and I'll have to find a way to survive it.

It's just so hard dealing with family sometimes x_x

that's what i wanted to do as well, but i'm really not close to that many members of my family. all of my grandparents have passed, i only talk to one of my aunts, and i live with my mom/sister. all of our close family and friends accepted it, but he still hasn't. though he did say he loved me for me the last time i saw him, but this was after i was visibly angry when he continually called me by my birth name and laughed in my face.

but here's the thing... there will come a point when not transitioning becomes harmful to you. you start to have dark thoughts, wish to magically wake up with a penis and no chest, but that won't happen. this journey is tough...and you cannot win everyone, so start living for you. the younger you transition the better. they can accept you, or not, but you have to live for YOU. at the end of the day you're left with yourself and if you're not happy, what's the point? i know that everyone on here will back you up; i hope that counts for something....

[palexander]

Sometimes it feels lucky for it to be somewhat acceptable to dress&act like a guy but then that appears to make it difficult for some people to understand why you'd want to actually have HRT/SRS.
Yeah know what you mean sounds pretty typical and similar to me except I had different hobbies, guessed you didn't mean soccer though..gotta love it as its most watched here but also gotta laugh I mean its turned into one of the least 'masculine' things you could watch/play haha
Personally I feel that not looking typically physically male has a lot to do with it but sounds like you're really getting there,
A lot can change in a month so perhaps you'll get a better reaction when you visit this time.
Awesome aha, yeah hope so though sounds like I'm going to a place of no return.. Nobody knows anything recent about my local GIC lol if I make it back I'll make a post or something 

haha yea, i guess somewhat! there were countless things that i did. i was never a 'girl' in my opinion. always had short hair, always wore male clothing, always had a wallet, never did anything girls do. i literally felt stressed out at the mere thought of female clothing or not being able to cut my hair. i used to swim with trunks on until i hit puberty... then it got pretty crappy. when i was 7 or something i told my neighbor i wanted a penis but i didnt how know the surgery worked. i ended up telling more people about this desire, but everyone was surprised.

sounds good! good luck.

[LittleBoyBear]

haha yea, i guess somewhat! there were countless things that i did. i was never a 'girl' in my opinion. always had short hair, always wore male clothing, always had a wallet, never did anything girls do. i literally felt stressed out at the mere thought of female clothing or not being able to cut my hair. i used to swim with trunks on until i hit puberty... then it got pretty crappy. when i was 7 or something i told my neighbor i wanted a penis but i didnt how know the surgery worked. i ended up telling more people about this desire, but everyone was surprised.

sounds good! good luck.

Same here. I've actually had dreams where my hair grew out overnight and I had to go out in public with it long. Multiple dreams. They're horrible.

[nguoiviet]

"You have periods, do you see your dad or ur brother having periods? No so your a girl.

[devention]

This really got to me, as I am (sort of) waiting for certain people (my grandmother who is old, my mom who smokes a lot and has generally poor health) to die rather than coming out to them. I can't afford to wait forever. If I choose not to transition it can't be for their benefit and I'll have to find a way to survive it.

It's just so hard dealing with family sometimes x_x

I feel you. I'm not postponing my transition, but I'm keeping it from my grandfather, who is in very poor health. On the one hand, I feel bad for keeping it from him. On the other, he's almost 90. I feel like the chances of him taking it well are very low and the last thing I want is for the shock to impact his health. It's not that I'm afraid of rejection, I just don't want to hurt him. :/

[littleredrobinhood]

"You have periods, do you see your dad or ur brother having periods? No so your a girl.

I would have had a little fun with that comment.  "So I'm only a 'girl' for 7 days each month?", "So before puberty I was a boy?", "So after menopause, women become men?", etc. 

[LoriLorenz]

"You have periods, do you see your dad or ur brother having periods? No so your a girl.

Tell your dad thanks for me, I have "girl bits" but have never had a period in my life! (No Uterus dude to a genetic syndrome. So under his definition I'm a boy! Yay!

But seriously... tell him to widen his profile of what constitutes male or female.

[Eevee]

"You have periods, do you see your dad or ur brother having periods? No so your a girl.

I have a period. <-(It's right there)

I'm sure your dad and brother use that punctuation as well. 

[littleredrobinhood]

I have a period. <-(It's right there)

I'm sure your dad and brother use that punctuation as well. 

Ha! That's genius, Eevee.  Even better than my "comebacks". Definitely adding that to my list of things to say if I ever hear that line.

[kittylover]

"it's really hard for us to use male pronouns with you" - I highly doubt it's harder then how hard it is for me to be constantly misgendered whenever I'm around you
"they is a plural pronoun , it can't describe a single person" -yes it can . While the grammatical awkwardness of they is part of the reason I stopped using it I would happily use it for someone else if they wanted me to
"i don't like the name jason"- I don't care it's my name not yours so only I have to like it
"we do so much for you already. stop putting so much on us"
"I don't want to spend my money on somethiing you might change your mind on" - if I'm asking for it I'm probably pretty sure I won't change my mind

[Daydreamer]

I don't really remember anything bigoted my parents have said. However, a certain older relative proceeded to call me the "d word" because I was too depressed to move a box for her.

[nor-ftm]

My mother said this too me after I told her how I feel about my body/identity : " I think you are a just a lesbian.." This happend in 2010.
I am now out of the closet,and all my friends and family sees me as a guy