Here is an answer I wrote a respons to. "Are you gay?"
Simple answer:
No, I am not gay.
Long answer:
I fell in love with someone that was female. I have gone through a lot with her. Ups and downs, medical issues, financial issues, or life in general.
We stood together and built a solid relationship. I showed her that people could be trusted; that love was real. This trust we developed let her express herself, and in doing so the pieces began to come together. She followed her feelings, sought the help she needed that I couldn't provide. We both didn't know what was at the root of the matter.
looking back, the signs were there, dysphoria was the biggest. Clothes were an issue, neutral attire was always preferred. Curiosity, more of a desire, about wanting male anatomy; something that was on her mind from a young age, but not mentiond till only a few years ago. She even said she felt she was a "gay man in a woman's body".
Neither of us new what a ftm was, or about transgenders. Then she discovered, through LGBT community's, that there was more to how she felt.
The next step of self expression, found her feelings could be discribed as genderqueer. She was soon they.
They explored self-expression, identity, and appearance. Were they developing a new identity? No, they were finding what had always been there.
Soon they were leaning more masculin. As the exploration continued, they realized fluidity was less compatible. He stepped out. The mask was taken off, and the person I have loved all this time was still in front of me.
