Do you ever forget how to be a convincing male?

[Juliett]

Judging by Your avatar - it would be an impossible mission now .

That is the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me. <3

[CrissyMarie]

That is the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me. <3

Well, it is true Hun, you look all woman to me.  =) Kudos, with dashes of jealousy. *Sounds like a tasty dish* >.> (I see what I did there)

[Sammy]

I can only do what I can do.  Put on the suit, bind boobs, remove nail polish, brush hair like...er, a guy with a girl's haircut?  I can see this going badly wrong already...

Ummm, lets see. Can You tie Your hair in ponytail or maybe comb it back and fix with lots and lots of gel? Personally, I hate that option but sometimes that's the only one cause the look is distinctively male and helps to take away attention from hair length and other small "discrepancies". Is wearing a suit mandatory? Cause if not, I would not... It is very distinctively male attire and it tends to accentuate features which we are now lacking - and somehow exaggerating the femininity. If absolutely necessary - there are cuts leaning towards more andro (mostly waist-tailored), if not - I would go with something slightly longer and a bit draping, like cardigan or something like that - if size is big enough it can hide bewbs perfectly, plus the way it falls down, it tends to take away attention from waistline/hips area.

[Heather]

To be honest it took a lot of work for me to look and act like I was a male. And besides I can't even remember the last time I had to act like a male fully? And I have no intent or desire to have to ever have to again anyways.

[Catherine Sarah]

Fortunately for me, I was never a convincing male 

Huggs
Catherine

[Allyda]

Those of you who know me prolly know how I'm going to answer this, lol! I never was able to be a convincing male. First there are my features, small and feminine, my proportions, also very feminine. But most important is how I carry myself, and how I walk, and talk, how I use my hands and carry them when I walk. My long straight black hair didn't help either. However when I had it cut short it still didn't matter. I just made an awful excuse for a guy.

So in short, not if my life or if all life on planet Earth depended on it, lol!

Ally

[Taka]

Taka, you might just have hit on the most amazingly simple solution possible.  Thanks!

I fall into the "not the most manly man" category too, and I think in nine months I'll definitely be on the male fail end of the gender spectrum.  It's such an odd situation too - these are people I don't give two hoots about, but who could probably make life difficult for my kids because it's one of those perfect storms of religion, conservative politics, and lack of education.

I can only do what I can do.  Put on the suit, bind boobs, remove nail polish, brush hair like...er, a guy with a girl's haircut?  I can see this going badly wrong already...

as soon as you say you are the kids' father... people will probably just accept that.
so you don't look manly, but if you do what fathers are supposed to do, nobody can criticize you.
how can anyone blame someone for doing their very best at looking manly for their children's sake?
have confidence in your role as father, even if you no longer fit in the role as male. they really are different roles.
and don't let anyone even think that you are wrong, you're doing the right thing aren't you?

[Sammy]

as soon as you say you are the kids' father... people will probably just accept that.
so you don't look manly, but if you do what fathers are supposed to do, nobody can criticize you.
how can anyone blame someone for doing their very best at looking manly for their children's sake?
have confidence in your role as father, even if you no longer fit in the role as male. they really are different roles.
and don't let anyone even think that you are wrong, you're doing the right thing aren't you?

And I can attest that fathers are granted much more leevay in their expression in comparison with "simply males", especially when having younger kids. You can be childish, open, emotional, whatever... sadly, not all dads are using this opportunity and still exert that stiff behaviour of emotional level of a brick...

[TashaEve]

While i still technically present at work as male. I have just been letting myself be free. As such I don't think I've forgotten necessarily how to pass as male. Instead, I now don't have the same pressures on how to be male. Those pressures which controlled my behavior in a way that made me seem male.

I feel happy and free, and just act normal, feme as that may be. Without the voice in my head telling me "that's not how men act," "do this," "don't do that."

I even feel like a better human being for it, because I can listen to my heart, instead of my dysphoria. The freedom makes me happier, and I think my colleagues notice that change (if only subconsciously) and we work together much better now.

I could probably remember how to pass as male. As much as I despise my masculine side, I'd do it to protect the children for such an event. But sooner or later, my happy and unrestricted side will catch up. Then I'd be caught smiling, laughing or giggling. Then the gig would be up. Can't stay stoic forever - not anymore.

[Brenda E]

Ummm, lets see. Can You tie Your hair in ponytail or maybe comb it back and fix with lots and lots of gel?

That, plus an ill-fitting baggy suit, and I'd look like a Colombian drug lord's sidekick from an eighties crime movie.

[Sammy]

That, plus an ill-fitting baggy suit, and I'd look like a Colombian drug lord's sidekick from an eighties crime movie.

You wont believe but that was exactly the image I had in my mind. Well, sometimes You just have to do it .