My uncle has been in prison since the late 80s. He's getting out in a couple of days, and I really want to have a relationship with him. My parents want me to as well. He is completely unaware of my trans status, and he'll probably be devastated if I tell him. His daughter died not long ago, and I think he was really looking forward to getting acquainted with his "niece." I was a three-year-old frilly (not by choice) little "girl" when he last saw me, so this is going to be quite a shock. That said, I do want to come out to him as male. The problem is that my parents don't want me to "do that to him." They don't understand why I can't just "be female" around him. I tried explaining that despite my body, I can't and don't know how to "be female," and situations where I am expected to do so make me suicidal. Well, now my mama thinks I'm "crazy," "dangerous" and "oppressing myself." So she wants to put me through reparative therapy instead of helping me transition. ("I don't want you to make your body male, I want you to make your brain female so I can have my daughter back. I want RACHEL! WHY can't I call you that?!?!) Everyone is telling me that if I come out to my uncle, it will destroy him and they'll never forgive me. So should I, or shouldn't I?
