I'm not religious, but I'm spiritual, I think the spiritism theory is the only one that doesn't deny reality and make sense in everything. It involves reincarnation, so that we have a lot of lives. The goal is to evolve and participate in something bigger than us. One life would never be enough. Some must be born in a male body, some others in a female one to experiment everything we need according to where we are in evolving. Others genders of other planets probably exist somewhere and are also part of the picture. Genders that we don't know here of course. Not everything is bound to Earth and having male and female concept. Humans are not the center of the universe. But our soul is probably bound to this planet for a while. Our physical nature tend to imprint our soul with the last gender so we are born in the same gender several times before to switch. Because we are so unique as individuals, the path chosen to involve being a trans is surely complex, but with completely valid reasons. We agreed before any incarnation, that our life will be this one until the next one. At this time, we are helped and we know what we need to do. We know that it will not be easy. Our brain just cannot be created with those memories from the past and the soul's memories cannot join the biology. So we wonder why we are there, and why life seems so unfair. We suffer because we compare to others. They have their own path, and ours is as it looks, probably more harder and complex in some ways. But some people live in the streets, some cannot walk, some will never be able to have kids. It's unfair compared to others, but those things push us through what we need to learn. We are not there to accomplish the societal ideal goals. We are here for something bigger than having a house, a job, and kids. And at some point, every soul get a more complex incarnation, in which everything may seems unfair. It's our turn, this time. We have particular things to do, in a particular background. It leads us to this particular life. I cannot be 100% sure that it's all true, but from everything I read, the whole theory that is too big to explain in a few sentences, is the only one giving sense to everything, the only one compatible and most possible. Knowing that don't remove the pain but when we believe this to be true, the pain has a purpose, and this purpose can change a lot of things. If we think that the goal in life is to mimic everyone perfectly, we will be in pain forever because one individual will never be completely a clone and sadly, it's even not what life is about. Are we loving people because they are common? All the same? No, we love because they are different, very unique. Society want us to be equal in every ways, but it's not our nature, it cannot work. If people would all wake up, there would be no expectations to be all so similar. Similarities would go up to common rules, language and respect, anything else would no matter.
Nature allowed trans to exist, like absolutely everything else present. It means it's natural, it's not a mistake. The universe is extremely well created, beautifully perfect and self maintained, allowing wonders to exist. What is bad, good, beautiful and ugly are for a large percentage programming from the society. It's not from nature, even if nature also admitted our plagued society to exist. Being born in another place and time, like the old native american people, would not have been so hard for trans people. They thought trans were gifted because they get skills of both genders (it was their way to see it), and they respected them. One in the family, was a lucky family as I said in another post. "God" wanted them to exist, and the population asked no question about God's will, they simply embraced it. We are not born in such a place, but my goal was to explain that life itself would not be so hard if it wasn't of the society in which we are in. Do nature care (judge) for you being trans? Do your dog or cat see you as weird? They could even not think you are beautiful, because they are not human so they don't have this programming. The universe want us to be like we are and its will and comprehension is above every human statement.
Adults are just older kids. They are mean, they harm, they do a lot of mistakes. We are all kids on a gigantic playground in a game we created, with rules based on appearances and familiarity. Rules invented, with most having no sense and not compatible with nature. And we come into this, born with a particular path tailored for our very personal needs to learn and things to do very precise, but we don't know about that. We just see this human invented game, we just want to win it, to feel like others and respected. If our path doesn't work with this game, we feel to lose, we feel to never fit, and then we ask why some god would do this to us. I think very advanced beings are guiding the children we are, where we need to be, and the way we need to evolve. And like parents do, they also need to put their kids to challenge, to see them suffer at some point making their own experiences, for the best ways for them to learn. That's also why kids may hate their parents, thinking they don't understand.
Universe is fair with what we have to do here, while humans are not. That's why they need to evolve, that's why we are here.