Welcome to Susan's honey

. First of all, be easy with yourself, life is a continuous discover and the standards are just.. well... hypothetic standards. life is not like math where everything fits. A gender therapist may help you for sure, I would advice to look for one. I have my therapist and the sessions are doing a lot to my auto-confidence and image of myself.
Also, remember that you gender is one thing, and your sexual orientation is another one, for me it was a bit hard to understand in the beginning but now I can see it more clearly.
Good luck and again, welcome to Susan's family Kitty (What a cute nick, by the way

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