Don't get me wrong, I love being a woman. I love my female body, I love when people call me girl (as in "you go girl", "hang in here, girl", etc.) and I love that the world sees me as a woman.
But since my SRS, I've felt free to embrace my male side. It's no longer something I want to erase from my being. I allow myself to acknowledge some of my male motivations, inclinations, and feelings. I'm becoming comfortable once more to think of myself as non-binary.
For the past couple years, while I was concentrating full-bore on my transition, I've spent most of my time in the MtF and transition parts of the forum. Those places are different. I remember remarking when I first started transitioning that the non-binary parts of Susan's are like a "Cool Aunt" who tells you it's OK to be whoever you are. In contrast, the MtF and transition parts are like a "Drill Sergeant" who is trying to shock you into taking your presentation, medical treatment, etc. all seriously. I mean, it's understandable. There's serious business there, about how to protect yourself from being clocked and harassed or injured, choosing the right surgeon so you don't end up being disfigured, keeping up with aftercare, and a million other details. Perhaps during those periods we need a drill sergeant to get us focused.
But it's really great to be back here.
I'm not sure why I'm relishing being non-binary now. It might be that I was intent on proving to myself that I was really "female enough" to justify calling myself a woman and "trans enough" to justify SRS. Now that I have SRS (and I'm really happy with my new body shape) I'm comfortable enough to nurture both sides of my gender.
I'm curious. Has anyone else felt this – that you become more comfortable with being non-binary post-transition?