I met him!!!

[Jaz650]

Okay, so I met this guy, who I thought I was not going to like, but I do. He knows I'm transgender, and he accepts me. He is sooo attentive, and just plain adorable. Problem is I'm so stressed out with SRS next year, I'm doing genital electrolysis, etc. Honestly, I need a friend, not a boyfriend, because it will only add up to responsibility, and stress. I want him to be my friend till the whole process is over. However, he wants to see me constantly, he calls me all the time, text messages, gosh!!! I'm trying to relax, preparing for surgery is so stressful. How do I ask him to be my friend for five months, without hurting his feelings?

[Alice Rogers]

Okay, so I met this guy, who I thought I was not going to like, but I do. He knows I'm transgender, and he accepts me. He is sooo attentive, and just plain adorable. Problem is I'm so stressed out with SRS next year, I'm doing genital electrolysis, etc. Honestly, I need a friend, not a boyfriend, because it will only add up to responsibility, and stress. I want him to be my friend till the whole process is over. However, he wants to see me constantly, he calls me all the time, text messages, gosh!!! I'm trying to relax, preparing for surgery is so stressful. How do I ask him to be my friend for five months, without hurting his feelings?

Show him this post, you just nailed all your thoughts and feelings on the subject perfectly!
xx

[Jess42]

Show him this post, you just nailed all your thoughts and feelings on the subject perfectly!
xx

Alice nailed the answer. But one question, why are you doing genital electrolysis? All over like a true Brazilian? Styles do change so don't commit yourself down there to something that will be permanent. I have seen it go from jungle love to landing strip to cute little shapes to a manicured lawn to linoleum. Styles change and in ten years it may be full on, UGHHH, shag rug. Inner thighs and all. God I hope not but... You're still young. Just sayin'...

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Jaz650, you will need to be firm with him, if he is as understanding as you say; he should back off a bit. Alice idea is a one way to tell him.

[kariann330]

Alice nailed the answer. But one question, why are you doing genital electrolysis? All over like a true Brazilian? Styles do change so don't commit yourself down there to something that will be permanent. I have seen it go from jungle love to landing strip to cute little shapes to a manicured lawn to linoleum. Styles change and in ten years it may be full on, UGHHH, shag rug. Inner thighs and all. God I hope not but... You're still young. Just sayin'...

I don't think this one will fade away though. I don't know how many times a friend of mine has said that it makes it easier to stay clean feeling during hell week or even when working out in warmer weather. Also several people have said that being 100% bare down there makes sex more enjoyable because of the hair not being able to trap lubricants, either natural or in a bottle.

To the OP, I agree 100% that Alice nailed the answer perfectly.

[Jess42]

I don't think this one will fade away though. I don't know how many times a friend of mine has said that it makes it easier to stay clean feeling during hell week or even when working out in warmer weather. Also several people have said that being 100% bare down there makes sex more enjoyable because of the hair not being able to trap lubricants, either natural or in a bottle.

To the OP, I agree 100% that Alice nailed the answer perfectly.

Oh karriann. I ain't sayin' it don't feel good bare down there. Don't get me wrong. That is the best feeling in the world. But styles do change. Get full bare and then the freakin' monkey comes back, God I hope not, then you will be out of style. Wax, shave or anything not permanent. Guys change and what they like will change. God I would hate to see a hirsuite wonder again like in the 70s. Gross. On guys and girls. God I hate body hair.

[Jaz650]

Alice nailed the answer. But one question, why are you doing genital electrolysis? All over like a true Brazilian? Styles do change so don't commit yourself down there to something that will be permanent. I have seen it go from jungle love to landing strip to cute little shapes to a manicured lawn to linoleum. Styles change and in ten years it may be full on, UGHHH, shag rug. Inner thighs and all. God I hope not but... You're still young. Just sayin'...

I don't think this one will fade away though. I don't know how many times a friend of mine has said that it makes it easier to stay clean feeling during hell week or even when working out in warmer weather. Also several people have said that being 100% bare down there makes sex more enjoyable because of the hair not being able to trap lubricants, either natural or in a bottle.

To the OP, I agree 100% that Alice nailed the answer perfectly.

Oh karriann. I ain't sayin' it don't feel good bare down there. Don't get me wrong. That is the best feeling in the world. But styles do change. Get full bare and then the freakin' monkey comes back, God I hope not, then you will be out of style. Wax, shave or anything not permanent. Guys change and what they like will change. God I would hate to see a hirsuite wonder again like in the 70s. Gross. On guys and girls. God I hate body hair.

No ladies, I am just getting the hairs, that post operatively would be inside my vagina permanently removed. I could care less about the outside. I just want this disgusting thing off me.

[ImagineKate]

I think it's great that you were open and up front with him. Good luck to the both of you and I wish you all the happiness you deserve!

[ssneha23]

Ure so lucky girl..  I so wish a guy could see me like that..

[kariann330]

Oh karriann. I ain't sayin' it don't feel good bare down there. Don't get me wrong. That is the best feeling in the world. But styles do change. Get full bare and then the freakin' monkey comes back, God I hope not, then you will be out of style. Wax, shave or anything not permanent. Guys change and what they like will change. God I would hate to see a hirsuite wonder again like in the 70s. Gross. On guys and girls. God I hate body hair.

you have a point...plus at first having hair will hide the scars at first but I don't want to derail the topic

[Jess42]

Ure so lucky girl..  I so wish a guy could see me like that..

Well that's good Jaz. Hairstyle change, even down there.

OK so why can't a guy see your like that? You are just as good looking as Jaz. Don't be so hard on yourself OK? Give yourself a little bit of credit ssneha. You are exotic looking and dark hair and dark eyes guys tend to fall for way more than the bland dirty blonde and hazel eyes I have. Gawd I must be so boring. But I ain't had no complaints yet. Does this wild rocker cougar chick need to take all you young pretty girls out to introduce you to guys? If I do, then you girls got a lot to try to live up to. But I will take you all out and show you the ropes if need be. But I really shouldn't have too. OMG. Ya'll put me to shame with our looks and I haven't had any trouble. So... grow a pair.... of boobs. I bet you girls thought I was gonna' say something else huh? But seriously though. C'mon. Don't be so freaking shy.

[Sammy]

[Jess42]

No Emily. Men and women it is hard to be platonic friends with. Unless it is like your brother's girlfriend or boyfriend or your sister's boyfriend or girlfriend. Or someone that means more to your family or close friend than means more to you. I won't lie or play the angel card, but I have ben a slut before.

[Jaz650]

Ure so lucky girl..  I so wish a guy could see me like that..

Girl, u r gorgeous! The problem with me was that for seven years I dated without telling them I was trans <bad idea! Now I am proud of my past. When I went to meet this guy, I had no make up on! Gosh, if someone is going to like me, they better get used to the fact that I look natural 24/7. If they don't well X onto the next!

[ImagineKate]

Girl, u r gorgeous! The problem with me was that for seven years I dated without telling them I was trans <bad idea! Now I am proud of my past. When I went to meet this guy, I had no make up on! Gosh, if someone is going to like me, they better get used to the fact that I look natural 24/7. If they don't well X onto the next!

I think it is fantastic that you are being your authentic self. Go girl!