Does that make me trans?

[Dargoon]

Okay... So... I'm faab and I've been having some doubts about my gender... At first, I used to think that the only reason for me to want to be a male was all the privileges they seen to have and this made me conclude that I was indeed a female(or a non-binary, who knows?), but in the last few weeks I've been wondering if that's really the reason for me to want to have a male anatomy...

Two of the main things that keeps me from identifying as trans is the fact that I am "way too feminine" to be a guy and my fear of the way people are going to perceive me once they see me as a man. What makes me think about it again is... The fact that I've been thinking about dressing myself as a female while having a male body.

Is it a common thing to happen with females? I never heard anything similar to that before... Btw, I'd like to achieve a more masculine appearence and I don't feel very comfortable with masculine pronouns, female ones work just fine for me.

[helen2010]

Dargoon

Not sure if this make you trans.  But in my case if you reversed your starting gender i.e. MAAB then much of what you are experiencing or feeling has applied to me.  The only way to find out if you are trans and what this means for you is to do some work.  Best place to start is to find a good gender therapist - it will save you a lot of time and stress.  They will help you find yur answers so that you can determine who you are and how you should deal with this.

Safe travels

Aisla

[briellesayh]

heyyy :-) no one can make the decision for you thats a choice that yo have to make and it takes a lot of soul searching a lot of thinking and oddly enough sometimes someone to talk to . you cannot focus your life around why people say or think of you . Beauty is soul deep and people are ALWAYS going to talk ..if they talked about jesus they will talk about you . take sometime and ask yourself how you feel and what YOU want .. F8CK everyone else. Become comfortable as who you want to be and what ever you do ..dont rush to put a title on anything . BE YOURSELF it will take time and as i said soul searching but you'll get there .

[makipu]

The fact that I've been thinking about dressing myself as a female while having a male body.

That is the key with me. If I had the correct body of a beautiful male to begin with than I would wear those beautiful clothing myself. I am with you there.

[Ms Grace]

How would you feel if you woke up tomorrow in a male body? Everyone treated you as a guy and used male pronouns and a male name. How would you feel if you knew it only lasted a day and the next morning you would be in a female body again? If it seems like it would be distressing to revert to "female" while being male would be awesome then you might have a sense of how you feel about your gender identity. Might be a good idea to talk to a counsellor and dig a bit deeper.

By the way, being scared of how others might treat you if you were male is not an indication of being trans or not. Many trans people harbour that fear.

[androgynouspainter26]

Well, look at all the men in the world-there are masculine guys and fem ones, jocks and drag queens.  Being male is completely different from being masculine-and just because you aren't masculine doesn't mean you can't be trans.

[amber roskamp]

being trans has nothing to do with how masculine or feminine you are. I feel like if you really want to change your body from a female body to a male body you are probably trans. the why can often be very confusing and can cause a lot of doubt. I know it has for me, but regardless of the WHY. I know I want to do it. I have fought off the feeling long enough to where I know its not a weird phase. follow your heart.

Also I am kinda masculine... I am not sure if I will ever where a dress....

to me it sounds like you are trans but that doesn't mean that you have to be a trans man. your might be somewhere between male and female. all of this is up to you to figure out in the long run though.

good luck on your journey to self discovery!

[pianoforte]

What makes you trans is identifying as trans. I recommend it. We have a great community. You don't have to be binary trans or transition to become a valued member of the community. But we will support you if you do.

Seeing a gender therapist can help you sort through your feelings. Or experimenting with drag, seeing how you feel presenting as another gender (even if it's just in the bathroom mirror).

I do drag (NOT professionally) in both directions... it gives me a good experimental basis for how I feel and who I am.

I identify as trans. And I've never been happier than these past several months since I started to acknowledge that identity.