Hi can I please get a little help here? This is a bit long by the way. Sorry.
To make a long story short, I realized (when I knew what the word meant) I was transgender about two years or a yr and a half back. Go in reverse and thinking back to my childhood everything seems to make a lot, and I mean a LOT of sense. Now fast forward back to the present and I'm presented with the issue of telling my family this. A family who, according to my mother and grandmother, has people who still don't even know I'm not straight. A family with members who still think I'm bi (went through a bi thing 7th-8th grade, not pleasant). So to be fair to family, I gotta tell them the truth but how is the question. My moms side is not that much of an issue cause we closer so I'm hoping our bond keeps us good even though I know this'll be strange to them, heck took me a few years it's only right to give them that as well. Now I do have an aunt who tells me, every time my grandmother brings up my sexuality and thinks its funny that I'm single and identify as lesbian, that my choice, its a choice to her, is nasty and wrong. She assumes it a (now 3 year) phase and thinks the whole 'homosexual thing' is a (5 year) phase. I laughed a bit one time simply because I doubt a phase like this lasts a few years.
Anyway, besides her I have a few other family members who's religion is seemingly why they talk about homosexuality like its a disease. I was forced to hear, when younger, very homophobic conversations with my mom, grandmother, aunties, uncles, and cousins. I'm even told by my other cousin to not tell anyone she's a lesbian cause of that fact we both are aware of. So I doubt they handle transsexual news kindly.
Now thats not ALL of my moms side, but unfortunately many of them are actually the ones I'm closest to, been raised by even. But my dads side? Well many of them have pretty much dismissed me after I told them, over Thanksgiving dinner when I was going home, that the reason I don't have a boyfriend is because I'm interested in the same sex and at the time had a crush on a girl. I got that awkward, 'Oh.' and haven't talked to them since. And that was about 3 years ago. My dads mom and a few cousins and I still talk, but his mother is like my aunt and doesn't like hearing any of 'that gay s___' after an altercation we had when I simply was telling my DAD about a girl he saw me chatting with.
So I got a few problems here and want to, to be fair to my family, let them know that their 'lil baby cousin' not only does not like, but doesn't want to be a female anymore. How can I tell them that? I told my mom and that was a painful conversation along with my grandmother which was just hurtful because she laughed at me. I just told my dad and he acted the way he did when I came out as a lesbian and said, 'as long as you're comfortable and if it's what you want to do'. I don't even know how to APPROACH the subject! Say, 'hey I know we haven't talked in a while, just calling to say I'm transgender, google it?' I don't know! Can anyone help me? Heck should I even tell them at all?
