TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual Assault

[cookieworks]

I had to get this off of my chest somewhere.

I had an absolutely awful experience today at school... Some guy passed me by outside of the building that my class was in, called me cute and asked for my number. In an effort not to be rude, I gave it to him (Didn't think anything of it). He was European (had a very thick accent), which is relevant because he asked me for a kiss, which I thought was kinda charming... But I told him that only one on the cheek was acceptable. So I turned my head sideways. Then things got really terrifying...

I had not expected him to turn my face and start sloppily indulging his obvious slobber fetish... Creeped out, I quickly broke away. I've never experienced anything like this before and it really scared the living ->-bleeped-<- out of me. Is this what we as women get to deal with every day? Talk about unwanted sexual advances. I mean... Even though it's not hardcore, it's still sexual assault!!!!!

So I push him away and tell him I have to get to class and he asks when I will be available and told him that I won't be for a long time and ran into the building where my next class was held and cried for about 15 minutes in the girls' room.

What do I do what do I do what do I do what do I do what do I do what do I do what do I do what do I do what do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I'm terrified... Like seriously...

[Dread_Faery]

Oh god, that's horrible.

I'm afraid that I can't really offer nice advice, he has your number and has already proven that he has zero respect for boundaries. You may be able to report him, though sadly it might not get the results you want, I don't know where you live so can't give you local advice so it may be worth researching on the net first to see if your school has a history of ignoring sexual assaults. You should 100% avoid being alone with him under any circumstance and unfortunately as he has your number you may have change it. If you are legally able to do so carrying some sort of deterrent spray might be advisable.

It really annoys me that the only advice I can give you is variations on "stay safe" while that creepozoid wanders around without a care in the world. Unfortunately this is just part and parcel of being seen as female or a woman.

[Ms Grace]

Hugs. Very sorry to hear this happened to you. Please report it to the school immediately. If some creep is hanging around the school he may be targeting other students and must be stopped. You did nothing wrong however you do not have to feel you need be "nice" to someone making a request or advance towards you if you do not want it, your needs come first not theirs.

[Athena]

Change your number now. You can let your contacts know later right now you need to protect yourself. Also mention it to the school administration even if it is just to get something on record.

But most importantly understand he is the one that was in the wrong and don't let anyone and I mean anyone tell you different, you did nothing wrong.

[ImagineKate]

Change your number, report him and keep away from him. Yes women do get unwanted sexual advances all the time. I hate to use a cliche but a lot of men are jerks.

[Emjay]

Omg what a total jerk!  I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

I agree, he definitely needs reported.  That sort of behavior needs to be addressed because it's NEVER ok.

About your number, Idk if you gave a cell number or a landline.  If it's a cell, my phone will let me block people either straight to voicemail or just decline the call altogether.  Just a thought in case the idea of changing your number isn't appealing to you.  I know I would hate having to change mine.  If your phone won't do that, your provider might be able to do it on their end too...   Heck, he may never call at all...  I hope not anyway

I do hope everything works out for you, that's terrible.

[mrs izzy]

Report any attack, yes it was a attack asap to the school office or security.

No means no period.

[DelKay]

Report it, change you're number, remember kick his dice and run like hell if he tries it again.

[Jaz650]

Sorry you went through this, please report him for the sake of other women. God bless you!

[cookieworks]

I would change my number but I can't because I have a hell of a lot of valuable contacts with my current number. As far as reporting... I don't even know the boy's number or name or anything... I just...

I guess the biggest thing I want to know is how to prevent this in the future. Because I DO NOT want it to happen again by any means.

[Kimberley Beauregard]

Change your number now. You can let your contacts know later right now you need to protect yourself. Also mention it to the school administration even if it is just to get something on record.

But most importantly understand he is the one that was in the wrong and don't let anyone and I mean anyone tell you different, you did nothing wrong.

Valuable advice.

I'm sorry to hear about your awful experience with that creep.

[lemon_ice]

I would change my number but I can't because I have a hell of a lot of valuable contacts with my current number. As far as reporting... I don't even know the boy's number or name or anything... I just...

I guess the biggest thing I want to know is how to prevent this in the future. Because I DO NOT want it to happen again by any means.

I would still report what you know to the school, including as much detail about him and what happened as you can remember. He may have done this sort of thing before, or if does this kind of thing to somebody else they will have your report too, which will help them deal with him...
I really feel for you, its just such a gross and weird thing to do to someone!! Eww!! Big hug ok , I hope you never see or hear from him again.