Hate being called sir now that I have gone out as me

[ssneha23]

I have hit some amazing milestones over the last few weeks. I went out partying as me for the first time. Went shopping as me, hit my 21 month mark on hrt and lastly my blood report said that I am 100% girl. I had normal e and t levels similar to a cis girl my age.

Now after all that there is no way I can transition at work yet. I still present in total male mode at office. Thus folks who don't know me at all address me as a sir. I used to not be bothered by this one bit. I was just OK with thinking logically that I needed to get through this.

However over the last month all of this has begun to bother me.  It triggers my dysphoria. I want to be seen as 1 of the girls.

So I guess my question is even after so much progress shouldn't the dysphoria have gone down. Why is it increasing so much..

[Stephanie00Rayne]

I don't believe it has anything to do with the dysphoria going up or down, rather that you are finally getting to be comfortable with yourself everywhere EXCEPT work, and because they don't know they have no idea that calling you sir bothers you.  Until you come out to work it going to bug you as you do more life outside of work in your female persona.  Just part of what comes with transition honey.

It happens to me to as well, except everyone at my office now knows I am in transition.  And while I still go to work in boy-mode (not for much longer) I have noticed that my manager is starting to catch himself when he say "hey man" or something along those lines.  All of them still use my male name as I've not yet requested that they switch, that will come when I start going to work in girl-mode. One of the woman in the office quietly says ma'am or miss to me every so often which is awesome tho.