Ostrasized . . .

[gina_taylor]

Yeah I know that it's discrimination, but the store manager doesn't see it that way. As said, as long as I am in there, she feels that it could disrupt business. Now this wig store is in a mall and this lady is a store manager, she isn't an owner, and I don't see what kind of problems I could cause because they only lease the store. But by the law doesn't she have to present me with a paper that states that I cannot come into the store, and why. I was thinking about going to the actual store manager, but it's not  really worth it.

Gina 

[Melissa]

Yeah I know that it's discrimination, but the store manager doesn't see it that way.

People who discriminate rarely see it as such.

[gina_taylor]

Yeah I know that it's discrimination, but the store manager doesn't see it that way.

People who discriminate rarely see it as such.

I totally agree with you there Melissa. She just thinks that by forbidding me to go back into her store that it'll stop any problems from occuring. But it's her lose.

Gina :

[Melissa]

She just thinks that by forbidding me to go back into her store that it'll stop any problems from occuring.

But if there were no problems to begin with, then it won't "stop" anything.

[gina_taylor]

Good point there Melissa, but like I've said, this store manager is just looking for something to happen. But like I've said, I've known her for five years, and she knows that I'm a cross-dresser and she's never complained about me coming into her store before. There are three other wig stores in my area, and I hope that she doesn't tell the others.

Gina 

[Mellisa]

Good point there Melissa, but like I've said, this store manager is just looking for something to happen. But like I've said, I've known her for five years, and she knows that I'm a cross-dresser and she's never complained about me coming into her store before. There are three other wig stores in my area, and I hope that she doesn't tell the others.

Gina 

From what you said, it seems like fear based discrimination, but i know that's really hard to prove, let alone make any kind of legal action about.

As a friednly suggestion tho, from what you were writing, it seems as tho you may have at time spent a lot of time 'hanging around' there...  as a manager of a retail operation, I know we have some 'regualr' customers that spend a LOT of tiem in the store, and while they do buy things on some/or even many visits, the time they spend is so much more... and frnakly soemtimes I do tell my staff not to encourage thenm to hang out so much.  Its not that thy get in the way of staff not heklping other customers, but that the time the stores otherwise empty, they sometimes seem to think its ok to just stand and chat.

Thats really the fault of my own staff, not those custoemrs, which is why i tell my staff not to encourage them - i'm not going to ban them from the place!  But it really does hurt my business since while my staff is hanging out talking, (often not about the actual business) they aren't doing the work they need to be doing (like restocking, cleaning the place, calling customers, etc)

I know this may seem petty and i apoligise, but its true - in my case anyway.  I don't know if this is the same w/your situation or not, but it's something you might want to consider.  Maybe that's the perception your palces manager has come to have...?

i have NO idea if this is the case or not, and either way, blaming things on cancer patients fears etc is BS, but just as a thought, this may be part of whats happening.

i sure hope you have better luck at the other places, and wither way i sure wouldn't spend any more money at places that don't apprciate you!  Good luck dear!
Mellisa

[gina_taylor]

Hi Melissa,
Very good point that you've brought to my attention. When I'm at the mall. I will stop in and see any one of the employees at the wig store, but I'm only in the mall two or three times a week if anything. So I'm not making a special trip to see them. I do have a life.   But like I've said, if a customer comes in and seriously try on a wig, then I quietly leave. Most people don't realize how expensive these wigs are, and they think that they can just come in and try on a wig just to see if they look good in a different color.

You know, I do understand your delima with your employees. The best thing that I would suggest to you is to talk with them and lay down some ground rules, like the importance of keeping your store clean, etc and to minimize the talking with customers.

Gina 

[shanetastic]

Hi Melissa,
Very good point that you've brought to my attention. When I'm at the mall. I will stop in and see any one of the employees at the wig store, but I'm only in the mall two or three times a week if anything. So I'm not making a special trip to see them. I do have a life.   But like I've said, if a customer comes in and seriously try on a wig, then I quietly leave. Most people don't realize how expensive these wigs are, and they think that they can just come in and try on a wig just to see if they look good in a different color.

You know, I do understand your delima with your employees. The best thing that I would suggest to you is to talk with them and lay down some ground rules, like the importance of keeping your store clean, etc and to minimize the talking with customers.

Gina 

This happens at my job once in a while, except I sometimes feel like I'm being rude to the person if I have to go off and do other things.  Only if it's dead though, that is.   If it is busy and someone is waiting for assistance, I just don't sit there talking to the person still.

[gina_taylor]

Sorry for changing the subject here for a moment, but I just saw a psychologist, and we had a good time talking with each other. Now I expressed my need to start living full time, which I feel will be mentally better for me. But my biggest problem is that I work for my parents, and they do know about me, but they won't allow me to come to work as a woman. They've told me that they can terminate my employment due to the Right To Work law. But on the other side, my father is going to have heart surgery done soon, which is a bipass and my mother has been diagnosed that she could suffer from either a heart attack or a stroke at any time. Now my parents rely on each other to run the business, and if one is gone, then there goes my job, and work here in Florida is very scarce.

Gina 

[gennee]

Wow, Gina! I'll keep your parents in my prayers.

Gennee

[gina_taylor]

Thanks Gennee for your kind heartwarmed words. Yesterday, my father saw a cardiologist and he told him that if he doesn't have the operation, he gives him five years to live.

Gina