New to this but need some help

[iwanttobemyself]

Hello all i am new to this site i hope someone can help or give advice to me. I have always had the urge to try on womens clothes ever since i was about 10 years old. I started to try my moms bras and panties on, and stuff them to make them feel like breasts. I have always felt more comfortable wearing womens clothes then wearing mens clothes. It just feel right. Now to this day i still wear some lingerie. I don't know if im just a crosdresser or if i am transgender. I have always dreamed of being a girl one day not a fantasy or anything like that. But if someone could help it would be great.

[KaylaMadison]

Hello and welcome to Susan's,

You should try and seek a gender therapist to help you if you are able to. They will be able to help you sort out your feelings and bring some clarity to it.

I don't know if im just a crosdresser or if i am transgender. I have always dreamed of being a girl one day not a fantasy or anything like that.

This right here though suggests that you are transgender. A cross dresser is generally okay with ones own gender and dresses in the opposite gender's clothes for reasons other than gender identity.

-Kayla

[Alice Rogers]

Kayla has it dead right, talk to a pro! But she is also right on the other point, the fact that You have always dreamed of being female sounds like a good indicator to me.

xx

[Dani Davis]

What Kayla and Alice said.

I'm in the same boat hon - have always dreamed of being a woman and in my earliest memories, couldn't understand why I did not have the same body parts as my sisters and mom.  I am currently unable, for a variety of reasons, to embark on the path of transformation so for now I am a transgendered crossdresser.  (smile)

[iwanttobemyself]

Thank you for the replies i appreciate the help. I just knew my whole life there was something wrong. This is most likely why i deal with depression i think about this everyday. When i was younger i was caught with my moms bras in my draw and questioned me and i denied it at first but wish i came out then i wanted to but was nervous this has effected since then. For and example wearing boxers doesn't feel right when i wear panties it just feels natural.

[Dani Davis]

Well whatever you do, don't beat yourself up about it.  I did for many many years and swear to god, thought I was going to go off the deep end.  Turned alcoholic, lost my wife, almost lost my house, my car, my job.  All because I felt like I couldn't deal with it or understand what was going on.  This was in the mostly pre-internet days so there really were few resources available and even fewer people to talk to about it.  And 99% of therapists then didn't have a clue about transgender issues, although they would happily take your money and spew whatever nonsense sounded right to them.

There are many great resources here on this site.  If you haven't already, I urge you to explore them and talk to the ladies (and men) here any time you have questions.  There are many wonderful people here with a lot of knowledge and experience with ->-bleeped-<-.  When I (hopefully) eventually start my transformation, I will start here and ask the questions that need to be asked.

Take care!

[Jamiep]

I agree with all the ladies here. I think the last post said it all when you mention depression & I think is the tipping point to see a gender therapist. They aren't going to bite you, relax, be honest, I think you will be a lot more comfortable with yourself, that you are alright & they will get you moving in the right direction. Crossdressing is were we begin.

All the best.

Jamie

[iwanttobemyself]

thank you for your help does anybody else have any input on my situation?

[Sttefanne Camp]

Hello all i am new to this site i hope someone can help or give advice to me. I have always had the urge to try on womens clothes ever since i was about 10 years old. I started to try my moms bras and panties on, and stuff them to make them feel like breasts. I have always felt more comfortable wearing womens clothes then wearing mens clothes. It just feel right. Now to this day i still wear some lingerie. I don't know if im just a crosdresser or if i am transgender. I have always dreamed of being a girl one day not a fantasy or anything like that. But if someone could help it would be great.

Hello ...
By its opening words, is a sense in which many of us have spent ... especially the fine line between being "woman" and "become a woman"... I do not know your age, but as we advance in crossdressing, knowing other people (in person), many ideas will fall into place...

Particularly telling, I myself love being dressed in women's clothing, and this time like "me feel feminine woman..." ... however, removing clothes, makeup and accessories, assume my original posture of man and father  ...

Here in Brazil, several of the people I talk to (especially in person), I see that, at certain times, many live a moment of "Barbie world", where everything is beautiful and wonderful ... and when "return to reality" a "clash" ... Especially when these people have little contact with other transgender (being Crosses, ->-bleeped-<-s and / or Transgendered) occurs ...

Unfortunately  , I do not know much details of how their daily lives and their prospects ... but at the moment, some experiences I have had contact here in my country is what I opine  ...

I managed to help you  ...

[OlderTG]

Let me suggest that talking to a therapist, especially a gender specialist, might help you regardless of whether your TG or a cross-dresser.

I've dressed in woman's clothes in one form or another for over 50 years and had denied to myself that I was even a cross-dresser. Finally through therapy, I've cracked through all my defensive and denial thinking to admit I'm transgender.

Regardless of what your conclusion might be, making it clear to yourself will be very beneficial and hopefully will either help the depression by itself or steer you toward some meds that might help it. Don't try to get your basic answers online - get a pro to work with you. This place is fantastic for support and help with little details once you figure out who you are.

Good luck!

[katiej]

It was a revelation to me that most people do not question their gender. They may periodically wonder what it would be like to be the other gender, but they don't obsess about it. And they certainly aren't driven to depression and self-destructive tendencies because of it.  That's when I realized that I really am transgender.

[iwanttobemyself]

Thanks for the replies everyone i appreciate everyones comments and thoughts/suggestions please keep the feedback coming i sincerely appreciate this knowing that you all go through this everyday.