Am I transgender?

[ujr0]

Recently I've been getting more into cross dressing and cutting my hair really short, which I did. The feelings for cross dressing are strong. I'm female and I feel prettier and more comfortable dressing and looking like a boy. I sometimes say out loud, "I'm a boy", with a smile on my face. I'm just confused. My sexual orientation is heterosexual. When I was younger I was a tomboy and somehow I feel comfortable with males. I've had a history of girls bullying me.

[Ms Grace]

Hi!

Welcome to Susan's Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

You're certainly showing signs of having some conflict with your gender identity. Doesn't necessarily mean you are trans gender, but it may too. If you had the chance to become male would you take it? What would it mean to you? Some of these things and your choices should be discussed with a gender counsellor to help give you a clearer picture.

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Grace

[Abby Claire]

You should probably seek out a support group or therapist to better learn how you truly feel. You may find some answers here on this forum, but if the feelings progress and get stronger, you'll definitely want to seek professional help.

I would also ask if you had ever thought of taking hormones or having surgeries, and if so how did the thoughts make you feel? Crossdressing and masculine/feminine qualities don't necessarily make you transgender. However, strong desires to change your appearance and your body would make you more likely to be transgender.

[✰Fairy~Wishes✰]

How do you feel in your heart?

For a long time, I was afraid and scared to identify as a girl. Even though, deep down in my heart I've always felt like a girl. Because I didn't want to have breasts or curves.
And because I've always been such a fan of androgyny and crossdressing and non-conforming to gender roles. And I looked up to so many androgynous people and wanted to be like them.

I thought I was agender and that I didn't relate to any gender. But then I realized that I was scared. And that I really wanted to be more feminine, not more androgynous.
I still want to be androgynous in some ways, and I love androgyny. But I want to be a girl. I want to be girly! So I realized I'm a girl and that's who I've always been and wanted to be deep down in my heart. I was just too scared.

I think that it's who you feel like that matters most.