The Welcoming Committee

[Foxglove]

Hi, Everybody!

This thread is inspired by this one,

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,174480.0.html,

as heart-warming a testimonial as you're likely to hear.  It reminded me of something I was thinking about recently.

We all (sadly) run into people who don't like us much, but by the same token we all (hopefully) run into people who are perfectly OK with us.  On occasion, however, we run into women who seem to really like the idea of ->-bleeped-<-.  They're exceptionally friendly to T-girls.

I've met two or three myself.  E.g., one of my neighbours who, the first time she saw me after I'd come out, greeted me one day with a rapturous, "Good morning, (my name)!"  And even though we hadn't been best of buddies before, we have been ever since.

And there's the woman in the bargain shop who, the first time she saw me in my new persona, actually shook my hand and started complimenting me on my make-up.  Also, one of the cashiers in the supermarket who, like me, is a bit of a girlie-girl.  We have lots of conversations about hair and nails and eyelashes, that sort of thing.

Lots of times I wish I could read people's minds, and such women as these particularly arouse my interest.  What is going on inside them?  How exactly do they see transgender women?

We know about "->-bleeped-<-s" and there's been some talk about them lately on this forum.  Their interest in trans matters is a bit off-putting for a lot of us.  But with the women in question I at least don't find anything the least bit suspicious in their response to a transperson.

They seem to find the idea of ->-bleeped-<- "really neat" for some reason.  It somehow appeals to them.  I've wondered if they don't simply like the idea of "a man" rejecting "his masculinity" and embracing "her femininity".  Maybe they're happy to meet a sister who they never realized was actually a sister.

I'd love to know what exactly is going on in their hearts and minds.  In the end, it doesn't matter.  Acceptance is nice, but what these women offer us is overwhelming.  I've started calling them "the Welcoming Committee"—as if they're saying, "Welcome to the world of women, sister!"

It's hard to have a nicer experience than that.

[stephaniec]

I think its just  how women are mentally as opposed to men. woman react so differently to me when I'm out

[suzifrommd]

I know exactly what you're talking about.

I think there are a lot of super supportive women who get their happiness in life when they see other people grow. It comes from the mothering instinct that we're all born with.

My goal is to be a woman who is more like them.

[Mark3]

Maybe they are more aware than you think of the hardships and pain that often accompanies being trans, and they are somehow trying to go the extra mile to make you feel good.?

I certainly admit trying to go out of my way in public to be friendly to a trans person, much more so than anyone else, for exactly that reason. But being male, I have to be very careful to not come off as a ->-bleeped-<- or flirt, but just someone trying to brighten up they're day.

[Foxglove]

Maybe they are more aware than you think of the hardships and pain that often accompanies being trans, and they are somehow trying to go the extra mile to make you feel good.?

I think there are a lot of super supportive women who get their happiness in life when they see other people grow. It comes from the mothering instinct that we're all born with.

I like these two answers.  Maybe that is what's going on inside them.  I wish I knew.  At any rate, it's certainly nice when you run into such women.