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[di]

Hello everyone, my name is Diane..but you can call me Di.
I'm a 46 year old mum who is supporting my 18year old son who has identified himself as transgenderd.
Please accept my apologies as i 'm pretty much new to all of this, although my son is providing me with knowledge slowly, he suggested i join because i can learn lots from you all and you will be supportive to us 
This is an incredible journey (dare i say) but a daily struggle for both of us.
I do hope you will accept me as a member and friend to your wonderful community.
much love,
Di

[Alice Rogers]

Hello Di, welcome to Susan's.

Hopefully lots of the questions questions you have or any support you and your child need can be found here!

I am myself a 38 year old transgendered female parent so you might say I am the flip side to your current life!

If you have any questions at all that you are afraid to air publicly for fear of offending please feel free to message me.

Otherwise welcome and thank you for being supportive of your child!

Alice
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[di]

Thank you Alice, my main worries are how to deal with supporting my child through depression, anxiety, and constant hatred of his body..he is on waiting list now but is getting so desperate he wants to self med,
He informed me he's felt this way since 8 years old..it is heartbreaking for me to see him so upset - he sometimes considers suicide, but i know he wouldn't do it.
sorry for babbling on here in the 'intro thread' maybe someone can point me towards a relevant topic.

[Alice Rogers]

No worries, I will suggest one thing right off the bat, assuming your child is likely to see your posts you might gain some appreciation by referring to 'her' the way she wishes to be referred to.  I was going to self medicate too, luckily for me my partner insisted that I go the right medical route through the minefield of medical transition.

Accepting her and supporting her in the privacy of home will be a huge help to her.  Hopefully much of the depression she is facing and dealing with will be reduced by your open and honest support, and speaking from past experience do not take a mention of suicide lightly no matter how sure you are it won't happen, it is a cry for help.

Love her, support her and be there for her and this entire stage of your life together will be a much better place for you both.

Alice
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[Ms Grace]

Hey Di

Welcome to Susan's    Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

It is wonderful that you can support your child through this. It can be hard for both involved and the young ones are always in such a rush! Please tell them that self-medding would not be in their best interests as they could easily create medical problems for themselves which may actually hinder future progress. Best to wait and do it through the medical system to avoid risks.

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[di]

Thankyou Alice, i've found a relevant thread, just reading now. I feel better already because i'm not on my own and it's good to see other parents here!
I must admit i do feel very newbie at this, but i know that with your and others gentle guidance, i'll get there!
I'm doing the best i can for my daughter, we have make up sessions, manicures, etc.
I just have to learn to think before i act or speak (if that sounds right)
thank you so much.

Hi grace thankyou for the links

[Alice Rogers]

Very welcome, good luck and congratulations on your new baby girl!

Alice
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[Devlyn]

Hi Di, it's nice to meet you! You're a great parent and this site is like a goldmine of information and support. I think things are going to work out fine for both of you! I'm very good at locating things on this site, if you need something get in touch with me. If it's here, I'll find it! See you around!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Mark3]

Hi Di.. 

I'm so happy to meet you, welcome to our group.
I'm so moved by your story, it's so wonderful to see parents here to learn things to help sons/daughters.

Anything I can do to help, please give a shout.
Take care,
Mark