Hey guys

[tammygirluk]

Sorry that i havent been on here in a while iv just had alot of issues and stuff iv had to work out.

I never want to give up cross dressing even though my mum wants me o as she found out that i dress up when she went through my things in my room 

She kinda told my dad too and he thinks its just a fethish.
Even though i will never stop cross dressing i still wish i could be more female like.Have the op and go to the doctors for hrt but im not sure if i could.one reason i couldnt do it is becuase of my family and the other is just the what ifs that enter my mind.

What if i make the change and have the above done and somewhere down the line regret what i did becuase i doubt the changes could ever be reversed Also i couldnt never have children.

Right now i feel that i would never have children i wouldnt want to bring them up in a world like this but some day i may change my mind about having kids.Im 22 on the 13th and i still got my whole life ahead of me i dont want to ruin it.

If i did make the full change i would have to be sure that its what i really want before i went ahead i guess the 2 year wait for the op would help me decide but i still have alot of thinking to do about it.

As others have said to me before i can still be fem if i just stick to cross dressing.

Iv managed to start to work on these issues with my therapist and its helping some what but its early days yet.Iv only just managed to tell her how i feel and now i feel fonfotable talking to her about it.

Lately iv havent been dressing much since my mum found out and every time i see other woman dressed up and looking pretty i wish i was them and every time i go in to a clothes shop the kind with both womans and mens clothes the womans clothes are always in the back of my mind.When im in the store i just wish that i could go and buy some of the nice clothes they have in the store.

[Bdnewgirl]

Sounds to me you got your head on straighter than you may think. You are taking your time looking through all your options. Not to many people  do that anymore
My parents found some clothes in my room when I was a kid. They just thought I was doing a Corpral Klinger from MASH. Doing it to get out of the house. For those who don't remember Him he dressed in drag to get out of the Army.
I'm new here but welcome back. From all that I read the people here are Great, So much advice and help I am so happy to have found this place

Brandi

[Sarah Louise]

How can you not remember Klinger?  He is on tv almost every night.  But, he was long after my time, I didn't have anyone to blame my clothes on.

Sarah

[Debtv]

I am happy in my life "just crossdressing".......and you probely could be too. You just have not tried it yet, because you are not in the situation you could.

Relax....you have a lot of life left.

Love
Deb

[Cassandra]

Sounds like you are enjoying life just being CD for now. Like Deb said take your time. You have your whole life ahead of you. If you decide you want to go all the way later and still want children there are options before starting down that road. It is a very big decision to make and you should be absolutely certain it is what you want. That's what the protocols are for to help make certain. Nothing is fool proof but they do work pretty well. Taking your time to decide is an excellent first choice.

Heck after you've gotten out like Deb for awhile you mind find that suits you just fine. Good luck whatever you decide.

Cassie

[tammygirluk]

I think im gooing to stick with cross dressing untill i decide.

I just dont get to dress up often and also i have a lack of clothes becuase i cant buy online anymore and i dont feel that i can go in to a clothes store and buy a whole outfit.

Iv only ever plucked up the corage to buy lingeire before.

Theres this one shop that has some really nice stuff  :-[

Does anyone know if womans trouses fit men?

[Cassandra]

Hi Tammy,

There is little difference between men's and women's trousers. The zipper is abreviated and then there is the left to right instead of right to left fastners but other than that the main difference is price. Oh yes and they come in a variety of sizes. By that I mean a 32 Long a 2 petite and a 2m or some such nonsense may all be the exact same size. That is were they get confusing.

Good luck,

Cassie

[stephanie_craxford]

Hello Tammy,

One of the differences between mens a women's trousers is the way the waist and hip are designed.  Women's trousers tend to have longer waist lines, and there is more room in the hips compared to mens, especially on tailored trousers designed for the younger crowd, or slimmer crowd, to highlight their figure.  As you get into styles designed for older women then the tailoring is not as pronounced, more straight legged styles.

It also depends on the style you go for.  Generally there is a greater distance between the hips and the waist band of female trousers when compared to male trousers.  Of course with the return of the low rise trousers, there is very little measurement there now.

You have to remember the sizes are based on a woman's body as follows:

(This is in Canada - you can check catalogues where you live for sizing charts they give you a good idea)

Petite Styles - 5'3" and under
Regular - 5'3" to 5'7"
Tall - 5'7" -  5'11"
Plus (Full Figure) 5'3" - 5'7"

The best thing to do is try them on before you buy them.

Chat later,

Steph

[tammygirluk]

Iv decided i dont want to have the op a few articles online changed my mind but the hrt thing im gonna look in to that but right now i am happy just cross dressing.

[Kimberly]

Tammy, if I may ask, what parts of HRT seems desirable to you?

[tammygirluk]

From what iv read.

Smooth skin ,breasts and the hair thing

Iv only done small research but i bet theres other stuff involved.

[Cassandra]

Hi Tammy,

Other Stuff:

Potential risks of HRT

Heart Disease
Liver Disease
Kidney Failure
Breast Cancer

Still think you might want to opt for HRT?

Cassie

[Leigh]

If you somehow were able to do HRT what then?

Grow breasts and never be able to go outside without wearing a heavy shirt or binding.
What about locker rooms, swimming?

If you are not going to transition you do not need meds.

[Kimberly]

From what iv read.

Smooth skin ,breasts and the hair thing

Iv only done small research but i bet theres other stuff involved.

Those are nice things to look forward to, but don't let them blind you to the whole picture as it were. Not everything to do with HRT is nice.

The problem with these three things more than anything is society. Or rather, how society will treat you when they find out you have them. Discrimination, because you are different, would seem to be a very real possibility. Make sure you read what Debtv has posted under "the price I pay to be out". What happens if you cannot hide the features you seek well enough? Make sure you understand the possible consequences.

Regardless, a few other things that come with the package:

* Muscle loss.

* Fat redistribution (less tummy more hips)

* Nails are more brittle

* Emotions and moods and things.

Also consider that HRT (in pretty much any form I believe) will sterilize you if you are on it long enough to get some of the nicer changes.


Really, I agree with what Leigh said, "If you are not going to transition you do not need meds." Those changes might be nice but ultimately come with a hefty price tag. Be very careful and make sure you know what you are getting in to before you do anything  

[tammygirluk]

im not worried about cancer but heart and kidney problems i would be.

Its not fair but such as life.
i feel that i shouldnt have been a man but ig uess theres nothing i can do about that unless im willing t put my life at risk which im not.

Dressing i like cross dressing but it just feels that theres something missing.

I dont know why i long to be like other females.

This week i was considering having the op n hrt but i found out some of putting things about the op and hrt well i wouldnt want to put my life at risk.

Cancer i could handle but not heart or kidney problems.

i guss i will have to wait untill the next life time

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               

[Debtv]

i like cross dressing but it just feels that theres something missing.

I know this feeling. But I found that being free and out....able to be honest and having a female lover into me....mostly filled in those feelings.

Love
DebTV

[niall]

Theres times Ive felt that way too, but i realise that i am a crossdresser, nothing more, even if i sectretly still harbor ambitions of more. Plus id like to find a girl to share with too

[Shelley]

but i realise that i am a crossdresser, nothing more

Hey Niall,

Knowing where you are is a headstart on many still trying to figure it out. As to the girl sharing this side of you I think that those that have a girl to share this side of them are very lucky but then it's not the end of the world if you can't find a girl into it. My wife knows but doesn't want to share in this side of me. I can live with that.

Shelley

[niall]

what i meant was an understanding girl, if she would share it that would be a bonus