Still got it? Never had "it" to begin with!

[Ms Grace]

I was recounting to a female colleague that some young guy at a train station had waved bye to me as my train left the platform. I wrote a threat about it here trying to figure if he was sweet or creepy, most people who replied thought that he was probably sweet. My colleagues response to the story was that I "still had it". I find that rather funny since, as a guy, I never had it. But a while bunch of little incidents over this last month is making it fairly clear to me that I'm turning a few heads and attracting attention from some guys. Since I'm primarily still attracted to women it isn't as exciting for me as it may be for others. And as someone who never attracted attention for my looks (even as a guy the women were seemingly not interested) I'm finding this an unexpected and unusual aspect of my transition. When one has never had "it" how do you cope with now apparently having it?

[Pikachu]

Just sort of take it all in stride, I guess. Back when I was living life trying to be a guy, I got hit on by random women when I was out from time to time. So I guess I had "it" back then. I'm not sure that I have "it" anymore.

[stephaniec]

nothing less then a very expensive restaurant and movie

[Miss_Bungle1991]

That reminds me of when I came out to my family. They would make the occasional remark that I was "a handsome young man". I would roll my eyes at them and think 'f--k you' to myself. What the brainless dolts didn't realize was that I saw right through what they were doing. They were thinking that if they reinforced my sense of being a male, that it would somehow make me change my mind. What they didn't understand then is that when I have my mind made up on something, I'm doing it no matter what. I had reached a point where I was very seriously considering cutting ties with them completely because I was sick of their crap. My mom flipped out when I told her that. Honestly, even to this day, I don't think they truly get it. Yeah, they use the right name, pronouns, etc. But I seriously doubt that they truly grasp how screwed up things were for me when I was in the closet. They think that just because I went by my birthname and all that crap that I was living an authentic life and I wasn't. It doesn't matter how many times I tell them this, they still don't get it. I just roll my eyes and tell them how stupid they are. It's probably not the nicest way to go about it. But I won't accept that stupid crap. Just because they think that something was a certain way. It doesn't mean that their viewpoint is an accurate one.